Couples Often Jealous? These 3 Important Solutions Can Be Done To Reduce Their Emotions
JAKARTA - You may have been jealous of your partner's career success or jealousy because they teased others.
"The sense of jealousy and jealousy is a normal part of every relationship to a certain level," said sex therapist Kaylee Friedman, MA, LPC.
Although some jealousy or jealousy can be considered healthy, if left hidden or not recognized. The situation can turn bad and cause big problems.
Being able to overcome jealousy and envy, as well as other complicated feelings that arise in you are the key to the success of the relationship. Knowing how to recognize these feelings is also important, and allowing you to deal with them directly.
Read on to learn how to deal with jealousy and envy from your partner, quoted by VOI from Very Well Mind, Wednesday, August 7.
The first thing you want to do if your partner is jealous or jealous is reflect yourself to make sure you don't make the situation worse. Things that can worsen the situation include if you try to tease others to provoke a jealous response to your partner. Or if you boast about work achievement when you know your partner is feeling inferior about their own position in your career.
After understanding clearly how your own actions have affected the jealous or jealous of your partner's behavior, Friedman suggests that you "start by making promises to speak so that your partner doesn't feel attacked or surprised."
After you do it and are ready to start a discussion, avoid asking your partner directly if they are jealous of you, because it can make them feel attacked. Instead, he suggests that you "share what you're paying attention to, how you feel, and ask your partner to do the same."
Conversations are a good step to relieve the surge in feelings. Friedman suggests learning to have open dialogue and to be curious about your partner. About what is behind jealousy or jealousy they lead to a deeper understanding and opportunity to support your partner as they are responsible and process their own feelings. In addition to helping overcome jealousy and jealousy, open communication in relationships leads to an increase in overall happiness and well-being.
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Of course, you may not be able to overcome all of this alone. Friedman recommends therapy or partner development for anyone who has difficulty communicating their feelings openly and calmly.
While these steps ideally will help improve relationships, not everyone is open to discussing their behavior. You don't have to underestimate your own achievements or deal with controlling behavior.
Friedman suggests that if open communication doesn't allow, set firm and clear boundaries with your partner. Tell them you won't engage in conversations involving blaming, criticizing, or trying to control.
To keep yourself calm, he suggests you offer support to your partner as they are ready to reflect on their deeper feelings, but don't get involved when conversations feel unproductive or unstable.