Teenagers Like To Deny Parents' Words? Here Are 7 Ways To Deal With It

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JAKARTA - Teenagers are basically verbally impulsive. That's because their developing brains are less guided by logic and are more directed by emotions. However, this does not mean they can get the freedom to return their words and behave disrespectfully.

Research shows that abusive teens will most likely grow up to be abusive adults. So, it's important to teach your child how to deal with anger without replying, turning your eyes, or slamming the door.

Apart from teaching children, it is also necessary to pay attention to how you respond to denials. Here's how VOI deals with teenage behavior that likes to argue, reported by Very Well Family, Wednesday, November 8.

Create rules that clarify which behaviors are acceptable and which are intolerable. Although there are parents who have no problem with the behavior of children who like to slammed the door when upset. But not a few who have a problem with it. Make it clear that certain behaviors, such as vilifying, threatening, and demeaning, will have negative consequences.

It is important for parents, guardians, and caregivers to exemplify this behavior as well. Research shows that shouting, shouting, and other forms of abusive verbal discipline from parents can cause problems with behavior and symptoms of depression in children, especially teenagers aged 13 to 14 years.

Shouting at teenagers or arguing with him will only worsen the situation. So, even if the child talks disrespectfully, try to stay calm. Take a deep breath, stay away, or say a sedative repeatedly on your head. Do whatever it takes to prevent anger from controlling yourself.

Denying is often from the desire of teenagers to stop doing something they don't want to do. After all, the longer your child can get you involved in an argument, the longer they delay doing what you ask for.

If you are provoked and get into an argument, they will delay following your directions. So sometimes, ignoring children's behavior is the best act. If you ignore these behaviors, children will most likely stop. And you can get back on the right track to make sure your child follows your direction.

Another reason teenagers argue is because they think they can change their parents' minds. Whatever you do, don't give up when your child behaves disrespectfully. If you give up, you will strengthen disrespectful behavior and your child will learn that this is an effective way to get what they want.

Don't let your child make you feel guilty so change your mind after you say no. Even if your child says you are the worst parent in the world, or tries to convince you that you are destroying his life, stick to the rules you make.

If a teenager refuses to follow the directions you give or he continues to behave disrespectfully, give them a warning. Tell them what the consequences will be if they continue to do so. Don't repeat the warning repeatedly. Instead, give a warning and follow up on the consequences if they don't change behavior.

If a teenager violates the rules by directly calling you a certain designation or not changing his behavior after you give him a warning. Apply the consequences. Remove privileges or set additional responsibilities when necessary.

If you deny it has become a common problem at home, use this opportunity as a way to teach your children skills to solve problems. Wait until everyone calms down, then work together to solve the problem.

Sit down and discuss your concerns about your lack of respect. Invite children to offer ideas and strategies on how to deal with this behavior. Make it clear that you want everyone at home to behave respectfully with each other.

Show that you are also willing to make changes. For example, if the child says they deny it because you always told him to clean his room while he was watching his favorite show, work together in finding a solution.

With proactive and consistent plans, disrespectful behavior in adolescents can be handled properly. Studying how to interact with other people without being rude is an important life skills that will benefit teenagers in the future.