Intimacy More Than Sex, According To Experts: Many Factors Affect

Illustration of intimacy over sex (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Sex and intimacy, turned out to be two different things but both were misunderstood. Sex is one of the activities carried out to have sex that refers to intimacy. However, more than 10 percent of couples who are committed to rarely having sex with each other but they remain happy.

Launching the explanation of therapists, teachers, and writers who focus on sex, marriage, and family, Isadora Alman, MFT., is something that can be done by yourself or with others. If you are with your partner, it can include having sex or not. Simply put, it is the pleasure of the body that usually aims to achieve orgasm. While intimacy is much more difficult to achieve than touching the body.

There are so many factors that build intimacy. This shows hope, desire, fear, and weakness. Couples who commit and establish intimacy mean getting to know and accept other people deeply. Stan Dale, reported by Psychology Today, Friday, October 13, defines intimacy as 'under-me-see'.

When sex and intimacy are combined, the two can be very satisfying. That's what is often stated in the concept of 'true love'. However, it depends on everyone's preferences. It's like a vegetarian who is not interested in eating steak or lobster. A combination of intimacy and satisfying sex does not mean having to choose one or both. Because achieving one of them alone is a good achievement.

Some people enjoy the joy and variety of casual sex. There is a partner who chooses sustainable sexual relationships but without ties. Not infrequently couples also choose intense but short romantic relationships. That means, there are couples who think intimacy is not important.

However, for couples who have lived together for a long time, an intimate and pure match is one of the achievements. They are happy and committed but there are also those who are frustrated because they are too afraid or expect an ideal regarding intimacy. Alman also explained that commitment is not just a concept in intimate relationships. According to him, many of his clients are dissatisfied with their relationship because they have sex without a commitment. Most likely, communication is needed in couples who want intimacy.