Unhealthy For Long-Term Relationships, Recognize Obsessive Symptoms Of Love

Illustration of obsessive (Freepik) love symptoms

YOGYAKARTA "Asymptomatic love or obssessive love can lead to the notion that people they love as if they are objects or ownership. This assumption can be caused by many driving factors, such as mental health problems to impaired disorders. Health professionals, call this condition an obsessive love disorder, which can trigger acts of violence or harassment. So to build a healthy relationship, there are four components of love, namely attraction, resonance or connection, trust, and respect.

The four healthy components in the couple's relationship, perhaps lost in an obsessive love. For example, people with extreme jealousy may not trust their partner so as to encourage them to constantly control their partner's behavior. Instead of loving the person and wanting the best for him, people with an obsessive tendency may love others because of their own needs.

An obsessive love sometimes involves a relationship that doesn't actually exist, according to Medical News Today, Sunday, August 6. Another condition associated with obsessive love is erotomania. Erotomania is a mental disorder where a person has the belief that someone with a higher social status than him is falling in love with him. That is, people with automania focus on accepting love instead of giving love.

Factors that cause obsessive and erotomania in love, related to mental conditions, are usually experienced by someone with a higher status. In primary erotomania, caused by eroticarism while secondary automania is associated with mental conditions or major depression disorders. Erotomania can also be associated with head trauma, pregnancy, alcohol abuse, or certain drugs such as amphetamine.

In a 2017 study, it showed that social media exacerbated erotomania. This is because it opens up the possibility of people being obsessive to observe other people from a distance and feeling closer to them than the fact that has happened. In addition to eroticarities, threshold personality disorders (BPD) who are very afraid of being abandoned and experiencing difficulty controlling emotions may exacerbatory tendencies.

The cause of being obsessed with partners other than being described above is attachment disorder. This is related to the ability of a person to form healthy entanglement and started from childhood. Because parenting patterns are unstable and develop abnormal patterns of entanglement, it can cause them to become obsessive, controllable, or filled with fear in their relationship. Unlike stable and responsive parenting patterns, they will be more able to develop a safe style of entanglement.

In addition to being caused by mental health conditions, parenting patterns, obsessive love can also be caused by trauma and fear of neglect. Social and cultural norms also form an assumption about how couples are. Such as demanding partners prove their love and grow the belief that love means ownership.

Symptoms of obsessive love vary, depending on the cause of why a person is obsessed. In general, some traits of obsession are not love, among others:

Mental health professionals explain, obsessive behavior based on the symptoms shown and whether it has a negative impact on life or not. But there is no specific diagnostic criterion for obsessive love. Psychotherapy may check mental health history and provide care to address causes or drivers of obsessive behavior related to mental conditions.