How To Be Wise In Facing Children Not Upgrading, Avoid Overcoming Disappointment And Annoyment

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YOGYAKARTA - Every parent wants their child to be smart or have good academic grades. However, not a few parents find their baby not up in class. As a parent, of course you feel sad, disappointed, and upset. However, many parents do not know the right way when facing their children not to advance to class.

When you receive a report card or the end of your child's semester and it turns out that your child is not up in class, you definitely want to vent your anger. But you should avoid scolding your child and punishing him. You need to control emotions first and find the root of the problem and solutions.

The wrong way in responding to children who do not advance to class will actually have a negative impact on the development of your child. So what are the tips or wise ways to deal with children not going to class?

When you find out your child is not in class, don't focus on judging his mistakes or shortcomings. It's better if you find a solution to solve these problems so that they don't happen again in the future.

The following are tips for parenting how to deal with children not to advance to class that need to be applied by parents.

The first thing parents need to do when they find their child not going to class is calm down. At such times, of course, your feelings and thoughts are chaotic and filled with disappointment and annoyance. But you should give a break first not to take action in a hurry.

Do not let you do your deeds or say words that make you regret yourself in the future. It is better if you take time to calm down first. Then invite the child to find time to talk or discuss the problems they are facing.

Parents should not focus on their children's mistakes, but find out what obstacles their children experience in their education. Based on Association for Psychological Science, there are two types of children who fail in their studies. The first is children who have studied hard but still get bad grades. The second is children who do not study or try at all.

To understand the obstacles faced by children, parents must have direct dialogue with their little ones. Ask the child what the problem is during studying or taking studies. Make the child comfortable to express the problem, which could be because he is uncomfortable at school, a toxic friend, there are problems with the teacher, or how to learn is disliked, and others. After finding the problem, then invite the child to evaluate and find the right solution.

Providing punishments or consequences to children who do not advance to class can indeed be done, as long as it is applied in the right and wise way. Avoid giving physical punishments, such as blows, tweets, and others. In addition, you should not limit the positive activities that your child does such as extracurricular or sports.

You can have reasonable consequences and make children learn to be better. For example, by limiting children's privileges, such as being allowed to only play gadgets within 2 hours every weekend. You can also have consequences in the form of delaying the previously planned holidays.

The next tip that parents need to do is to help their children make learning plans. To overcome the obstacles that children face, you need to invite your little one to take real action. So that children are more responsible and committed to their studies, you can give ideas about positive things that your little one needs to do. Starting from setting a study schedule, doing homework on time, often gathering with family, and others.

The next step that parents need to take when their children don't go to class is to keep providing motivation. Convey positive affirmations to encourage children to rise from failure. When they don't go to class, usually children will be sad and feel inferior to their friends.

Do not let your attitude actually make your child increase down. So you should continue to support your children so that they study harder so that in the future they can obtain satisfactory academic results.

Those are some wise ways to deal with children not to advance to class that parents need to apply. When your child does not advance to class, of course you feel sad and disappointed. However, keep your emotions and thoughts under control, and apply a number of ways above so that your child can learn to rise and improve himself.

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