How To Identify If You Are Afraid To Fall In Love

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JAKARTA - If most people want love in their lives, there are also people who are afraid of having sex with others. This type and level of fear varies depending on personal experience. Such as the patterns of entanglement developed and psychological defense formed to protect themselves from previous wounds. These patterns and defenses tend to hold back or even sabotage themselves from romantic life.

Because childhood memories serve as a model of how you expect relationships to run in life. Difficulties in establishing a romantic relationship can make you feel the need to protect yourself. You may think you want love and connection, but at a deeper level, you refuse to be careless for fear of reviving and experiencing painful old emotions.

Robert Firestone, psychologist and author of Fear of Intimacy Robert Firestone told Psycology Today, Wednesday, May 3, saying that most people are afraid of intimacy but at the same time are also afraid of being alone. This can cause a lot of confusion, because ambivalence of a person can lead to a real urge and attraction in behavior. So, how to identify if you have feelings of fear of falling in love?

For some people, anxiety around relationships can be seen clearly. Some are consciously immediately withdrawing from building a connection or commitment. While others do it in a more subtle way. Like trying to make an approach, but actually the actions taken lead to the opposite. Because of this confusion, the first thing that needs to be balanced is how to synchronize between mind and behavior.

The second way to identify you is afraid of falling in love is the loss of interest in your partner after trying to establish a relationship for some time. If intimacy begins, you feel threatened. Therefore, when the relationship becomes more serious, you will make a distance with your partner and build negative thoughts about your partner.

How to identify the third is your love for someone who is easy to change. Today you can be crazy about your partner. Eating together, laughing together, and looking to enjoy the moments you have. However, it could be that the next day you arependating and say in your heart that your partner is less attractive.