7 Ways Parents Teach Teenagers About Self-Restrictions

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JAKARTA - Self-constraints are the limits set by a person to protect himself from being hurt, manipulated, or used. Not only adults, teenagers also need to be taught about setting boundaries between themselves and others. In order to avoid the risk of bullying peers, even harassment if children start dating.

Of course, setting boundaries is not easy. Communicating boundaries made to others will certainly be difficult at the beginning and making the situation uncomfortable. However, if you let other people treat your child in an unfavorable way, it can cause him to get involved in an unhealthy relationship, ultimately affecting the child's mentality and emotions.

Learning to recognize and label feelings is not easy for teenagers. It takes a continuous effort to know how he feels. He may know annoyance, but does the annoyance arise in the form of anger, frustration, or stress? Why is this important? Because the ability to describe feelings is the first step to apply boundaries, reported Very Well Family, Friday, August 4.

Tell children to believe their intuition. If something goes wrong or a situation feels wrong, it could be that this condition is not doing well. Teaching children believe intuition has the benefit of keeping them away from easy-to-confidence in people.

Sometimes teenagers need help to determine what a healthy relationship or friendship is like. Routinely doing light conversations about what is meant by friendship or healthy dating can gradually make children become good at determining personal boundaries.

Most of the current relationships are digital. Talk to your child about digital etiquette, sexting, and misuse of digital dating. Make sure he knows how to stay safe online and set boundaries with people who violate their values.

Setting boundaries is certainly difficult and requires a lot of training. For that, teach children to use sentences like "no, thank you. I'm uncomfortable with that", or "I'll talk to my parents first. Tomorrow I'll tell you" it could be an example.

Setting boundaries with other people is not easy even for some adults. For this reason, teenagers need to train in a safe environment with people they also feel comfortable with.

Let the child say "no" on various things and set personal boundaries. Encourage children to develop independence at home by allowing them to voice opinions and make decisions.

Sometimes teenagers think that friends are everything. Emphasize that every friendship is different and will play a different role in his life. Being a good friend, doesn't require an agreement in every problem.

It is having different opinions or beliefs that make relationships interesting. Support your child to be authentic and find a healthy friendship.