7 Strategies To Improve Good Relations Between Parents And Adult Children

Illustration of improving good relations between parents and adult children (Freepik/master1305)

YOGYAKARTA Children grow up, of course have the choice of living independently. So that relationships with parents do not fade, then at least they need to maintain communication. In addition, parents need to be open-minded and have strategies to support their children. What strategies can be done? This is a list of recommendations from social psychologist and writer Jane Adams, Ph.D.

For parents, it is sometimes difficult to accept that children pursue certain fields that parents do not understand. But parents need to remember that, they are grown children need to be seen as they are. Don't let them say the phrase Mama/Papa doesn't really know me at all.

What children want for themselves, may be different from what you want. Give them the right to make their own decisions. Give them the opportunity to act on their own goals instead of rejection. Keep in mind, loving actions will be warmer for the relationship.

Everyone has had a failure, including your child who may make some bad choices. To respond to their experience, avoid using your judgment. It's better to remind them that it's their choice, don't criticize or force your judgment to accept.

It's certainly not easy, but it's important to their happiness. If you don't accept their life choices, it will stretch the distance. That is, you have to refrain from getting their privacy out of their life choices.

Exchange ideas may be needed, especially when parents share experiences. Without being authoritarian, build communication with an open mind. In addition, do not talk about one child with another.

This sixth strategy, perhaps the most difficult than ever. But by listening, recognizing, and accepting, it is most beneficial in maintaining relationships and nourishing emotional relationships between parents and children.

If children have made mistakes, fail, don't save the experience as revenge. Heal old wounds by agreeing, providing useful feedback, not as an attack. In addition, you must listen and accept even if you don't agree with their choice.

If someone shows wisdom and respect, then the most appropriate way of communicating like a friend. Instead of saying bad things, it's better to talk about their plans to deal with the bad with their choices. Launching Psychology Today, Thursday, June 22, Adams suggests listening carefully and providing support, empathy, input, and even a loan if they need it.

Through the seven strategies above, a warm and healthy relationship can be established between parents and children.