What is Self-Sabotage? Get to Know the Meaning and How to Handle it

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JAKARTA - Self-sabotage behavior or self-sabotage is an action that is carried out unconsciously, which causes problems in everyday life to the point of interfering with life goals.

Reporting from Healthline, Tuesday, March 14, there are several signs that can be recognized when doing self-sabotage, namely blaming other people, leaving when things don't go well, procrastination, looking for trouble with partners or friends, dating people who are not woth it, difficult to express opinions, to belittle yourself.

This self-sabotage can occur due to many things, such as past trauma, feelings of inferiority, fear of accepting failure, to the desire to always be in control.

These are ways you can overcome self-sabotage

Be aware of Self-sabotage behavior

The first thing you can do is realize that self-sabotage is self-defeating behavior. Then start from there, try to examine the causes of this behavior and what triggers it. Then, when you have found the cause, start changing your self-sabotage behavior with positive things.

Trying to accept failure

Accepting failure is not an easy thing. One of the ways you can accept failure gracefully is not to have too high expectations. Because maybe this is what can make us hurt and even self-sabotage.

Make a commitment with yourself to get out of this cycle of behavior

Make a commitment to get out of the cycle of self-sabotaging behavior, because the highest motivation lies within yourself. You don't need to force yourself, just do everything slowly.

If you have done these three things and still need help, immediately see an expert or psychologist.