Have Been Committed For A Long Time, Why Do You Still Often Fight With Your Partner? This Is The Reason The Expert Says

Illustration of why you often fight with your partner (Freepik/Gpointstudio)

YOGYAKARTA - Long commitment does not mean the road is always smooth. Feelings of boredom, maybe coloring. Even hiding emotions, can trigger a small fight. According to Joel Block, Ph.D., senior psychologist at Northwell Health System and clinical assistant professor of Hofstra Northwell School of Medicine, covert surgery is a trigger for arguments in couples even if they have been committed for a long time.

Almost every couple will experience turmoil in response to an immediate situation. The occasional bickering ensued, not even saying a word, just slamming the door or silently shedding tears. Quarrel is not always a bad thing, precisely because of fighting, problems will be resolved and no longer hidden. However, certain types of anger can damage healthy relationships.

Illustration of why you often fight with your partner (Freepik/Gpointstudio)

Things that make relationships unhealthy or fights don't solve the problem, triggered by unspoken anger. When one of the partners harbors hatred, this can be a problem. Second, when anger has no known cause. So that one of the partners just keep it a secret and keep it to himself.

In both cases, the anger becomes unresolved and does not evaporate but drains the positive energy in the relationship. Sometimes, angry partners choose to keep their distance. A signal that occurs, when things are going well in the relationship and suddenly one of the partners realizes something is bothering them and starts an argument. Although tension is caused by fear of intimacy and triggered by anger, it is seldom realized.

According to Block, as reported by Psychology Today, Friday, August 5, digging into what really happened isn't always easy. But it is important to do for a resolution or get a solution together. So what to do when you often fight even though you have been committed for a long time? Everyone in pairs is important for self-evaluation. Then learn little by little to be honest with yourself and with your partner. That way, each partner will know and understand even there is no hidden aspect that undermines the warmth of the relationship. If you can't have an open discussion between the two of you, professional help may be able to help.