Experiencing Emotional Trauma, This Is The Impact A Person Experiences After Being Cheated

Illustration of the impact of being cheated on by a partner (iStockphoto)

YOGYAKARTA – Being cheated on does not only feel disappointed, but also causes a person to experience emotional trauma. How not, a trusted and loved person stabbed a 'knife' in the back, of course it would cause pain.

When someone is betrayed, they usually experience a frantic emotional state. Citing Psychology Today, Friday, June 24, Robert Weiss, Ph.D., MSW., a clinical psychotherapist, says that honesty and trust are the foundations on which love rests. When betrayal occurs, trust will collapse and lead emotionally stable individuals to fall into self-doubt, darkness, and confusion.

In the world of mental health, this world of betrayal is seen as an attachment wound. After being cheated on, they often show symptoms of stress and anxiety that are hallmarks of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Experienced include nightmares, severe anxiety, excessive alertness, strong mood swings.

Illustration of the impact of being cheated on by a partner (iStockphoto)

Weiss explained further, getting trust back after betrayal occurred after going through honest actions, commitment, and honesty from time to time. No forgiveness occurs immediately, at least a year after the relationship repairs. Even when rebuilding trust, someone who was cheated on continues to experience emotional trauma which is characterized by the following behaviors.

As if to be a detective

Trust is not easy to build, especially after it collapses due to infidelity. Perhaps, a cheated spouse becomes a detective, checking cell phones, browser history, email, texts, apps, credit cards, and other access.

Experiencing mood swings

Mood swings will change quickly when someone is hurt. After being cheated on, a person may be sad and a minute later filled with anger, but soon express affection, and even sexuality. This mood is like a pendulum moving erratically, without even warning.

Feeling ashamed and losing self-esteem

A partner who cheated on, may have created the best possible partnership. This means that their self-esteem will be hit when their partner cheats on them. They may also feel unattractive and unlovable.

It's hard to believe in the things around them

By cheating, a person has violated their partner's trust and relationship. If you want to gain trust back, it takes time and effort. For that, it is necessary to accept that it is possible that the cheated partner will question every little thing he does because he needs to make sure everything can be trusted.

Avoidance or asking obsessive questions

Both behaviors, namely avoidance and conversely, asking questions obsessively are equally possible for partners after being cheated on. Basically, they may be trying not to talk about betrayal but in a confused atmosphere.

In addition to the five effects of being cheated on above, according to Weiss, there are symptoms that are sometimes not easy to tolerate. But it was all the result of a betrayal. That means, there is the wisest choice to maintain the honesty and trust of your partner, right?