Feeling Not Bonding Enough With In-laws? Try Applying These 8 Things

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JAKARTA - When you get married, you are not only marrying your partner but also their family. And even if you fall in love with your partner, you don't necessarily feel the same way about their parents. In fact, quarrels between in-laws and daughter-in-law still often occur from time to time.

Feeling less comfortable with in-laws does not always bring marriage to the brink of separation. With a little patience and understanding, you can learn to build a healthy relationship with your in-laws. Then what to do? Check out the following tips.

Communicate with partner

Cited from Very Well Mind, Wednesday, April 6, the first step is to talk to your partner about your concerns. It could be that he is completely unaware of the tension between you and his family members. By telling, at least the partner can help mediate the situation. If he is unwilling or unable to help, then you will have to take matters into your own hands.

Avoid sensitive topics of conversation with in-laws

There are certain topics that have the potential to cause conflict between you and your in-laws. Be it politics, religion, or parenting style. Instead of ending up messed up, you should avoid discussing these things. If you can't avoid it, then be respectful and try to see things from their point of view.

If there is a difference of opinion, try to discuss it in a calm and respectful manner. Avoid open criticism as it will only make things worse.

Set boundaries with in-laws

It's important to set boundaries with your in-laws especially if they are pushy or interfere in your life. Tell them what makes you comfortable and what doesn't. Don't be afraid to say no to your in-laws.

Don't be easily offended

There will be times when your in-laws say or do something that hurts your feelings. So it's important not to be easily offended or take these things to heart. Maybe they didn't mean to hurt you and it's important to remember that they're only human.

Accept in-laws as they are

Your in-laws will never change, so try to learn to accept them for who they are. Trying to change it will only lead to tension and conflict. So, focus on accepting your in-laws and find ways to build a good relationship between you and your in-laws.

Remember good moments

Although the relationship between you and your in-laws is not always harmonious, there will always be good moments to remember between you two. Cherish the moment and be grateful for it. Practicing gratitude has been shown to have a positive impact on well-being. So, if your thoughts are more positive, chances are that your relationship with your in-laws will be better.

Express your feelings

If there's something you don't like about your in-laws, try to be honest. Choose the best time and way to express your feelings without hurting them. It's important to find ways to let go of your anger, frustration, and pain. Because if not, these negative emotions will only grow into heart disease.

Be patient

Building a strong relationship with your in-laws takes time and patience. Be patient and understand more about the situation so that in the end you and your in-laws can build a strong family bond.