Couples Ask For 'Rations', How To Respond When Not In The Mood For Love?

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JAKARTA – The procession of making love requires the consent of both people involved. But sometimes there are times when you are not in the mood to make out but the couple asks for a 'ration' for love. So what can be done to keep the relationship warm and not trigger domestic conflicts?

First, first identify the cause of not eager to make love. Are menstruating, tired, or there are other problems that cause dim passion flared. At the level of recognizing this reason can make an agreement with your partner. If the couple understands, they will accept without feeling disappointed for the delay in making love.

After the reasons are both known, discuss so as not to discourage one partner. For example, comfort each other or give each other a hug to stay comfortable.

Try to explain that the reason is not because the partner is lacking something. But because of other things that cause the mood is not smoldering.

It could also be touching, hugging, kissing, or wearing sexy clothes to trigger sexual desire. To be sure, can adjust the ways that are able to awaken.

The third way, massaging each other can make the muscles relax. When tired, can relieve tension. If this way has not provoked his desire, ask your partner to touch sensitive points so that they are more passionate.

Keep in mind that consent or consent needs to be agreed. Avoid forced sexual activity because it can hurt your partner.

If the mood for sex has not been awakened, you and your partner can make a schedule for sex with a more intimate atmosphere.

According to Dr. Dinda Derdameisya, Sp.OG, quoted from Kompas, Monday, September 6, serving her husband is the wife's obligation but the husband must also understand his wife's condition. When the wife is tired, it is impossible to be forced to make love.

If the wife can not enjoy because the lubrication fluid does not come out, avoid forcing penetration. Because according to Dinda's explanation, this can cause wounds and infections.