5 Tips For Keeping Sex Life Warm At Age 45 And Over

Illustration of a couple aged 45 and over (Pexels/Gary Barnes)

JAKARTA – The life of a couple at an advanced middle age, may have gone through the storm. Because the comings and goings of strong winds can be handled properly. But what about sexual relations at the age of 45 and over?

According to sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer revealed that almost a quarter of baby boomers or the generation born in 1946-1964 reported being dissatisfied in the bedroom. Even with the next generation, namely Generation X.

Reported by Everydayhealth, Wednesday, July 21, Doctor Westheimer in an interview gave secret tips that sex life can be kept warm. In a survey from the Associated Press and LifeGoesStrong.com, 24 percent of the baby boomer generation said they were not sexually satisfied.

While the next generation or those aged 44 years and over, as many as 20 percent feel less satisfied in their sexual life and those aged 66 years and over as much as 17 percent.

1. Explore new positions and atmosphere

Boredom is the main reason for an unsatisfactory sex life. Couples, advises Westheimer, find a new position or at least explore a new atmosphere with your partner.

2. Don't bring trouble to the bedroom

The matter of mother-in-law, the matter of children's tuition fees, even about installments or future business orientation, should not be discussed in the bedroom. These problems keep partners from having a pleasant and satisfying sex life.

3. Make love in the morning

In the morning, instead of watching television, schedule once a week to wake up and make love to your partner. Why the morning? In the morning testosterone levels in men are highest compared to other hours. That's why it's easier for them to get sexually aroused.

Well, in women who get a good night's sleep and soundly in the morning will be more interested in sex.

4. Keep the relationship stable

Maybe it will seem romantic if, making out while looking at the twinkling stars. But for middle age, it will feel cliché. So what can be a delicious spice for sexual life? Stable relationships and strong emotional bonds are key.

Both keys are based on communication and honesty. So, tell your partner about what you want and vice versa. About sexual fantasy, about the preferred style of foreplay, thrilling touch, and others.

5. Keeping the dynamics of life happy

It is undeniable that life is dynamic, there are always problems and there is always a way to stay strong and happy through it. It's certainly not easy, but it's not impossible if we go through it together right?

Staying happy makes the body and mind relax. By staying happy, all kinds of problems can be solved. Westheimer's advice, wear a lubricant to prevent painful intercourse.

Communicate and negotiate consent or approval of positions or schedules with partners. Say and also tell about things that make you and your partner tired or angry.

That is, a healthy husband and wife relationship also has the potential to get a pleasant sexual relationship.