The Phenomenon Of Divorced Artists, Psychologists Reveal 4 Small Problems Triggering Household Cracks

Raisa and Hamish Daud (Photo: Instagram/@hamishdw)

JAKARTA - Throughout 2025, the Indonesian entertainment world has been enlivened with unpleasant news, namely divorce. Several artist couples, who have been known to be harmonious and far from gossip, have surprised the public for deciding to separate.

One of the most horrendous news came from Raisa and Hamish Daud. After eight years of marriage, the singer of "Serba Salah" officially filed for divorce from her husband.

The public was surprised, because so far they are known as a romantic celebrity couple and almost without slanted issues.

On social media, their portrait of togetherness looks perfect, full of love and laughter. However, like many other relationships, the reality behind the scenes can be very different.

According to a US psychologist, Markploy, many marriages collapsed not because of betrayal or violence, but precisely because of minor problems that were allowed to accumulate.

"The trivial issue, such as lack of communication, loss of empathy, or no longer listening to couples, could be the beginning of the breakup of the relationship," he said, quoted from the Psychology Today page.

He added that love alone is not enough to maintain a household. Longstanding relationships require conscious efforts, open communication, and long-term commitments to continue to grow together.

Here are 4 simple problems that are often overlooked, but can slowly destroy marriage and how couples deal with them.

1. Don't Understand Relationships Don't Always Be Balanced

Many people think an ideal relationship means everything must be balanced 50:50. Whereas true balance in relationships is dynamic. There are times when one party is weak and the partner must be stronger. However, if this situation lasts too long without communication, fatigue can appear and is not appreciated.

Psychologists suggest that couples regularly reflect by talking about their respective feelings and adjusting expectations.

Long-lasting relationships are not conflict-free, but are able to adapt and compromise when facing differences.

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2. Lack of Emotional Trust and Honesty

Trust is the main foundation in marriage. Without it, relationships are easily shaken by anxiety, suspicion, or avoidance.

Couples with open communication and emotional honesty tend to have a higher level of marriage satisfaction.

In a long-term relationship, trust is built not only through loyalty, but also honesty to yourself and your partner. In addition, dare to convey what is felt without fear of being judged.

"If a partner starts hiding feelings to avoid an argument, that's the beginning of emotional distance," saidTEN.

"Small by little, the relationship loses its closeness and meaning," he added.

3. Loss of self-identity

The phrase 'you complete me' may sound romantic, but it could be a trap. A healthy relationship actually grows from two individuals who are complete personally.

When a person loses their identity, stops pursuing interests, hobbies, or friendships for the sake of a partner, there will gradually become a sense of vacuum and loss of direction. Couples who maintain a sense of personal identity have a more stable and happy relationship.

Happy couples usually have space for themselves. They support each other's growth, not limiting, "said the sickle.

That way, love becomes a place to develop, not a place to lose yourself.

4. Lack of Mindfulness in Facing Conflict

Every relationship must have a conflict, but the way to deal with it determines the direction of the relationship. Couples who often argue to win actually enlarge the emotional gap.

On the other hand, couples who manage emotions with full awareness (mindfulness) can resolve conflicts without damaging closeness.

Couples who practice mindfulness are fully present in conversations and hold back negative reactions in order to have a more intimate and lasting relationship.

The 'Mindfulness helps us stop reacting and start responding with empathy,' explainsTEN.

"When the conflict occurs, listen first, then answer." he added.