How To Deal With Manipulative People? These 5 Tips Are Important For You To Follow

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JAKARTA - Dealing with manipulative people can be challenging and tense. Manipulative people are those who use various tactics to influence or control others for their own benefit, often at the expense of other people's feelings, needs, or rights.

They can lie, make you feel guilty, manipulate other people, or bully you to get what they want. They may also ignore evading responsibility, and act as victims. There are several ways to deal with persons who are manipulative and protect yourself from their bad behavior. Here are some tips that can help, quoted from Innervoke, Wednesday, August 6.

Don't let the manipulator trigger emotions or make you doubt yourself. Take a deep breath, practice grounding techniques, and remind yourself of your values and goals.

You have the right to reject any requests or demands that make no sense, are unfair, or detrimental. Don't let the manipulator pressure you to do something you don't want to do or agree to something you don't believe in. Explain and frankly your limits and expectations.

Don't get involved in fights or fights with manipulators, because they will use them as an opportunity to manipulate you further or embarrass you. Instead, focus on the facts and behavior, not the person or the motive. Use the "me" statement to express your feelings and needs, and avoid language accusing like 'you are always' or "you never".

Don't let the manipulator change your mind or make you feel guilty for sticking to your decision. If they insist, repeat the position calmly and decisively, or end the conversation politely. Don't let them make you tired or make you feel sorry. Remember that you are not responsible for their happiness or well-being.

If possible, limit or decide to contact the manipulator, especially if they are rude or toxic to you. Travel yourself with positive and supportive people who respect and care for you. Find professional help if you need it, such as counseling or therapy, to overcome emotional impacts because it relates to persons who are manipulative.