Why Do Victims Of Domestic Violence Have To Speak Up? This Is The Answer

Vinessa Inez got up after getting domestic violence (Photo: Savic Rabos, DI: Raga / VOI)

JAKARTA - Pesinetron Vinessa Inez once stirred up the public by filing a divorce suit due to allegations of infidelity and domestic violence (KDRT). At the age of 22, she is the widow of ex-husband Ryan Deye.

Vinessa is now more focused on her career and children only. Apart from the toxic household phase, Vinessa finds that it is difficult for someone to change. Expecting a partner to change is difficult.

"If the motivation to change is not from yourself, it's difficult. It can't be 'I want to change for you.' There is no guarantee, because changing yourself is difficult, how can you change other people," he explained.

His courage to reveal that his previous domestic violence had changed the course of his life. Many women who experience domestic violence ask for strength from Venissa by sending direct messages to her Instagram.

"With us speaking up, it turns out that so far many DMs have experienced the same thing, even worse things, they don't dare to speak up. Why? Why let yourself be hurt all the time? How long are you willing to let yourself be unhappy?" he said.

Receiving similar messages, Vinessa feels strong because she is not alone. In fact he felt that his life was more meaningful. "Many ask what should be done when they get domestic violence. I said I never told a husband and wife to separate. But please know the positives and negatives of a household relationship," he explained.

All problems will be returned to those who undergo. "If it's still both positive, what is the negative, if the separation is positive, what is the negative. Because that's what I did, I found that after the separation I received many benefits. Because we live happily, we don't want to suffer. Why make ourselves suffer because of domestic violence? " said Vinessa Inez.