Avoiding Misunderstandings In Marriage Can Be Done With The Following 6 Tips

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JAKARTA - Marriage is not only about sharing space, but also life, dreams, and sometimes, misunderstandings. These episodes, although common, can obscure relationships if not handled wisely.

Understanding the root of misunderstanding and learning to navigate effectively can keep the marriage relationship harmonious and full of love.

Launching Marriage, Tuesday, October 8, regular communication is very important to avoid misunderstandings in marriage. Get used to sharing your thoughts, feelings, and worries. This includes not only talking about your day, but also digging deeper and significant problems that affect your relationship.

Schedule a time to'meet' where you and your partner can speak openly in a calm atmosphere, can be very effective. Use this moment to discuss your day and any feelings or problems that may be in mind. Make this a routine, maybe while drinking coffee in the morning or before bed.

Listening is as important as talking. Listening actively involves a full concentration on what is being said, not just 'here' the speaker's message passively. Think about what your partner says and ask further questions to show that you are really listening and also to clarify your understanding.

long conversations, completely focus on your partner. Get rid of glitches such as cell phones or laptops. Disturb, make eye contact, and repeat some phrases or summarize what your partner says to show that you are paying attention and really understand the perspective.

Misunderstandings often occur when assumptions are made. If there are any doubts about what your partner is referring to, ask for clarification. Repeat what you think you hear to ensure there is no miscommunication. This simple step can prevent a lot of potential conflicts related to misunderstandings in marriage.

Use a phrase like, "What I hear from you is...," and ask if it's true. If you're still unclear about your partner's statement, ask open questions to dig up more thoughts and feelings without making assumptions.

It's easy to react emotionally during tense discussions. However, taking the time to manage emotions can result in more productive conversations. If you feel overwhelmed, get excited from the discussion until you can approach it with a calmer mindset.

Implement the 'tax' rule when emotions peak. If the discussion gets too hot, one partner may suggest taking a break for a while to calm down. Make sure you and your partner can return to the conversation with a clearer mind and a calmer heart.

Many misunderstandings arise due to inappropriate expectations. Discussing your expectations in various aspects of life, whether financial decisions, household responsibilities, or personal boundaries, can help prevent conflict.

Be as specific as possible to avoid assumptions and reduce the frequency of the mind, "there is always a misunderstanding in your opinion."

Hold a monthly meeting where you discuss future events, responsibilities, and any personal needs or limitations. Write down what you agreed on and review together to ensure you and your partner have the same view.

Try to see the situation from a partner's point of view. This can help you understand your reactions and decisions better, which in turn can reduce misunderstandings. Empathy builds stronger emotional relationships and can bridge the gap when words are not enough.

Do regular exercises where each partner shares personal experiences or frustration while others only listen, without interruption, advise, or judge. This exercise helps develop empathy by allowing each partner to fully express themselves and feel understood.