8 Signs Of Couples Doing Coercive Actions, Included Domestic Violence?

Illustration of the couple's sign of coercive action (Freepik/Drazen Zigic)

YOGYAKARTA Koersive implies threatening actions and violence. Coercive actions in a relationship, particularly in a pairwise relationship, refer to patterns of expressive behavior and are carried out to dominate by controlling thoughts, feelings, and acts of violence. Also known as coercive controls seen through forms of control that also involve the use of physical violence. That means, one of the acts of domestic violence includes coercive control.

A psychotherapist based in Santa Barbara, California, Christine Scott-Hudson was reported by PsychCentral, Monday, August 19, suggesting being aware of one of the signs of commemorating coercive actions. Among them, here are signs of a partner committing coercive actions.

Physical violence is one of the most extreme forms of coercive control. This violence uses physical pain to control the behavior of others and instill compliance. Signs of coercive action with physical violence include hitting, strangling, slapping, kicking, biting, using weapons, to driving recklessly or using dangerous situations for control.

Threatening also includes the sign that your partner is doing coercive actions. A threat, is a statement about future consequences meant to create fear. Threats can hurt, for example, when someone says 'Better not like that anymore, or you're going to regret it'.

Insulting and demeaning can destroy a person's self-esteem. You may start to believe that you cannot live without your partner so that you accept acts of harassment, humiliation, and even demeaning behavior. Humiliation involves harmful jokes, cursing, and constantly criticizing appearances.

Without realizing it makes her partner feel isolated including coercive actions. This can prevent the victim from leaving his partner by forcing the victim to fully depend on his partner. Isolation tactics include making excuses so that you don't meet your friends or keep you at home by making fun of the interests you are involved in.

Make no mistake, coercive actions that force and are classified as violence, are also included by monitoring all of their partner's activities. Not only physical violence, but monitoring all activities and tracking positions and checking interaction history also includes coercive control.

When your financial movement is researched, controlled, and restricted, it can create a situation where you depend on your partner to meet basic needs. With this control, you don't have access to resources to get out of the situation. The signs include limiting monthly money to personal, insisting on sharing financial account information, to debting on your behalf.

Sexual forcing occurs when you feel depressed, manipulated, and cheated into sexual intercourse. For example, makes you feel obliged to have sex with a gift offer. Or it has consequences if a person does not have the sexual activity that his partner wants.

Everyone has autonomy, for example, to choose clothes according to preferences to choose what hobbies to embrace. But when you are not given an autonomous space, a person has been deprived of his personal choice. With this action, the person has controlled, ignored the victim's feelings, and made the victim feel inferior.

That's a sign that your partner is doing harmful coercive actions. To deal with coercive control, it's important to ask for help. Scott-Hudson suggests talking to trusted people outside of a relationship about what's going on. You can talk to close friends or family. It's also important to meet professionals for consultation with your partner in order to find a perspective between you and your solution.