When People Comment About Your Child's Appearance, Here Are 5 Wise Ways To Respond

Illustration of how to wisely respond when people comment on children's appearance (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Many parents think that their baby is the most intelligent, beautiful, handsome, and proud child. If you feel it, you are not the only one. However, many parents without consideration comment on other children about their appearance, body shape, body weight, and size. Of course this is not a wise thing. For this reason, it needs to be responded wisely so that every parent can both learn to form a comfortable environment for children to develop optimally.

Comments made about appearances often make a person unhappy, even though they are praise. Research reported by Baby Chick, Friday, May 3, shows that even comments that don't mean to mock, whether it's about body shape or weight, have a bad impact on welfare during childhood. So how wise to respond to other people's comments about children's performances? Here are the tips.

If other people have good intentions, good comments and intention of caring, try asking for help. Share your insights about the potential dangers of discussing children's appearance and ask for their support to take a useful attitude in a healthy way. Instead of commenting on appearances, try to open up opportunities to connect with full empathy.

Your child may hear directly comments from others. Your child may understand messages about value and self-esteem beyond appearance. However, take time to protect your child from the awkward experience of receiving comments from others about his appearance. Remember that however, it is important to image the body positively. Focus on the function of the body rather than its appearance.

If your child hears comments about his body, take time to talk with him and dig up how your child feels. When discussing this, say that you are disappointed that someone has discussed their appearance in an unpleasant way.

Example about positive body image and healthy relationships with food and choosing how to look. Avoid commenting on your own appearance in front of the children. On the other hand, comment when your body is doing something extraordinary, such as, Wow! I'm tired, but my body feels strong and healthy after walking far away!.

Children will feel comfortable and safe if they have a support system. Good supporters for children are from their parents. When your child has a negative picture of his appearance, convince them that his size, weight, and appearance can be very different for everyone. Make sure the child's understanding of each size and appearance is different, has the same function. For example, when the child feels that his feet are big rather than his friends', believe that the body has a common function even though it is different in size.

The wise way to respond to other people's comments about the child's appearance described above may be just a few tips. Many unexpected experiences experienced by children, especially those related to other people's comments about their appearance. So supporting, ensuring that children feel safe, and helping them build a positive image of their body, is important to consistently do.