Do These 6 Things If Children Don't Want To Listen To Parents

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JAKARTA - Children who don't want to listen can be one of the triggers for parental stress. You are certainly very upset when your child ignores your words. Especially, if you're in a hurry. Repeating to him will only make you even more depressed because he doesn't want to give in to immediately move to obey you.

What do you have to do when that happens? Amy Morin, LCSW, psychotherapist in Boston, Massachusetts who handles a lot of children and families share tips on dealing with children who don't want to listen, reported by Very Well, Wednesday, November 1.

Lower your body according to your child's height. Then face to face when asking your child to do something. This is the best way not only to make sure you get full attention from your child. But also teach children to be polite and listen respectfully when someone talks to him.

Like any other behavior, the child will learn how to listen by following the example you provide. If you get used to listening to your child when he talks, most likely he will also do the same when you talk to him.

Think about what might cause your child to not pay attention to you. Do you ask him to do something too difficult for him to do himself? Does he have trouble doing something you ask for because he is tired or fussy? Consider what causes his behavior. Instead of ignoring it because the child is disrespectful, deliberately challenging, or ignoring you.

No matter how annoying it is when your child doesn't listen, try to stay calm when you guide your child and don't scream or speak in an angry tone. Why? Two main reasons: First, when you get angry, you show your child that you can't control emotions. Second, even though screaming may give you results in the short term, its effectiveness will disappear over time.

If you are constantly struggling to make your child listen, change the dynamics of the interaction by easing things a bit. For example, if you are frustrated that your child is taking a long time and can't get ready to go to school on time, use a time regulator to see who can win the race to get home or make a sticker to reward him with something he wants if he succeeds. be able to get ready on time for a week or more. Use your imagination to encourage cooperation instead of filing charges.

Make sure to let your child before that you will do this exercise so he knows that you don't actually ignore it: Set the time for about 30 minutes (less more, depending on the age of the child and how he reacts.) and tell your child that you won't listen to him. It won't be long before the child understands how bad it would be if someone you want to talk to ignored you.

Building a good habit of communication is a process that takes a long time to develop. Instead of expecting your child to always obey you when you first say something, look at the development of his listening skills as part of building an important foundation that will help you and your child develop a strong relationship in the future.