JAKARTA - Humans are not born as great negotiators. In order to master this skill, it takes time, energy, and hard work. And as parents, you should be the first child's school to learn various skills of life, including children's negotiating skills.

You can use the tips below to negotiate in a way that provides maximum benefits for your child. Don't be surprised if your skills are also honed in the process! The exemplary role is one of the best tactics to teach how to negotiate.

Children will not have many opportunities to practice negotiations if they are not given the opportunity to participate in decisions related to everyday life. Of course, this does not mean that every decision you make must be negotiated. Know which issues are non-negotiable and be honest about it.

You may be surprised to learn that there are more issues that can be debated than you realize. Such as how much money they have to save, pocket money rations, house assignments sharing, and curfew restrictions.

Once you decide a problem can be negotiated, try to save your own view and don't force your child to follow your view. Because this can lead the child in the opposite direction. On the other hand, allow children to share their thinking process out loud.

Encourage them to ask you questions and try to answer honestly. Suggest to write a list of pros and cons related to issues that are being discussed and ask children to share their opinions about the outcome of these choices.

Usually negotiations trigger a 'fight or run' response, as debates are often felt confrontative. However, great stress, anger, or frustration can prevent talks from being productive. As parents and role models, it is important to try to control your emotions and not overreact to your child's words. It can also help keep up with the intense emotions that your child may feel.

Reporting from the Mydoh page, Wednesday, 30turbations, practice the jujitsu negotiations' technique which involves avoiding emotional enhancement by refusing to react. Instead, teach children to channel these reactions into something more productive, such as focusing on the views of opponents of negotiations and finding common ground.

Teach children to be active listeners by exemplifying themselves. When teenagers express their opinions, don't interrupt. You can also set rules that everyone will be given the opportunity to speak. Negotiations say that people will be more likely to solve a problem when they are all given the opportunity to express their feelings and points of view.

To make sure your teenage children listen and vice versa, you and your child can repeat what each other says. That way, the chances of misunderstandings will be smaller.

The art of negotiating is an important skill that is beneficial for children in many ways. The more often you practice negotiations with children, the more likely they will be to successfully negotiate when building relationships with others, discussing issues of interest, and determining future wages.


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