7 Unhealthy Interaction Patterns In Romantic Relations

Illustration of unhealthy interaction patterns in romantic relationships (Freepic/prostock-studio)

YOGYAKARTA The pattern of interaction has a big influence on the welfare of two people who are committed to romantic relationships. Apart from influencing the way of communication, this pattern of interaction also has psychological consequences. If the interaction pattern is unhealthy, then the consequences are negative for the relationship.

Launching a review of clinical psychologists and psychiatric professions at the University of Nevada, Las Vegas, Cortney Warren, Ph.D., ABPP., an unhealthy pattern of interaction in romantic relationships almost always includes difficulty communicating. Instead of respecting each other, this difficulty actually demeans and tends to trigger quarrels.

What's more, being in a relationship with someone who has a toxic tendency is associated with trauma responses, such as excessive alertness, obsessive thinking, and anxiety. Not to mention unhealthy biological consequences, such as sleep difficulties. Reported by Psychology Today, Friday, August 18, here are the patterns of unhealthy communication in romantic relationships.

Comments intentionally to make a person feel bad about himself, often referred to as insulting in person. This is often reflected in the use of labels in negative views, such as stupid or smoking'.

Everyone has a vulnerability in responding to certain events. In an unhealthy interaction pattern, this vulnerability tends to be exploited not supported. For example, when fighting, a person from a partner can say 'You still feel insecure and jealous as usual, your ex is right about you'. This statement exploits the vulnerability will be unsafe in relationships and used to label.

Lying is an dishonest attitude and can erode trust in a relationship. By being like this, romantic relationships are not based on honesty and make it difficult for couples to connect with each other.

Communicating non-verbal messages but verbally, it's called passive-aggressive messages. This happens when asked about someone's feelings and then answered "Everything is fine" when obviously they feel annoyed, sad, and angry.

An interaction pattern that deliberately tries to make someone doubt their perspective and oversight is called gaslighting. For example, your partner makes you doubt the choices that have been made.

Both verbal, physical, and non-verbal communication, if it is stopped just like being punished. Here, if someone breaks contact with their partner, it can cause a lack of communication and is dangerous for romantic relationships.

Emotional aggression include shouting, shouting, and emotional unstable interactions. A big fight might make people say cruel things. Not only about the sentence spoken but about the tone of speech. Emotional aggression, sometimes also has an intention of insulting and feeling superior. For example, saying something that shows itself superior.

According to Warren, long-term connections in romantic relationships, marriage, and long-term commitments can be very difficult. But ups and downs in communication are normal. Nonetheless, an unhealthy pattern of interaction in romantic relationships can be prevented.