YOGYAKARTA Stressful times are quite challenging for couples who are committed or married. In addition to dealing with personal life pressure, one also needs to maintain a harmonious relationship with their partner. Not only smooth, sometimes there are misunderstandings and makes them overwhelmed to trigger a bigger conflict. To stay on track with your partner and maintain relationships when you have a lot of pressure, here are recommendations for how Dave Smallen, Ph.D.
Everyone has their own preferences, including the right way to deal with stress. But when your partner is both stressed, each response to stress may be contradictory. For example, when you are overwhelmed you need connections and certainty while your partner becomes quieter and takes time to calm yourself down. Differences in this way need to be addressed, known, realized, and understood. Therefore, discussing with your partner can help build a common understanding of each other's tendencies.
During stress, emotions increase and energy reserves are drained. Maybe your partner can't be at odds. It's important to understand, every relationship always has a conflict. But the most important thing is not how much conflict, but how you and your partner can reconnect emotionally after going through a series of problems.
Smallen's advice was reported by Psychology Today, Friday, May 26, if you can choose the time to give full attention to each other. Listen to your partner without judging, understanding, and respecting. By doing so, you and your partner develop more closeness, trust, and attention.
When your partner is under pressure, you need to offer yourself up as a partner. This helps you and your partner articulate what actions are most supportive. For example, providing emotional support by encouraging, empathizing, and paying attention. Real support, related to practical matters, for example doing tasks that your partner usually does around the house.
As a partner and a confidant, you need to lower expectations in difficult times. At a time of stress, when we work emotionally and physically, expectations in relationships are difficult to fulfill. Therefore, it may be useful to expand support with those closest to you. Consider support from friends, family, or communities to reduce stress due to stress.
Even in an atmosphered situation, people may have a positive moment in their relationship with a partner. This positive moment can also be created, for example by expressing gratitude and appreciation to your partner. Like taking a break to hug and pay attention. This is one way to strengthen a sense of security, namely by celebrating positive things.
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