JAKARTA - Dealing with children who cry easily is not easy. Children, especially under the age of 3 years, are still crying a lot. This is natural. Crying is still their way of communication because their language is still limited.
"However, in sensitive children, they will tend to feel each emotion very intensely," said Amy Morin, a psychotherapist from Northeastern University Boston, cited from Parenting, Thursday, August 18.
She explains that sensitive children tend to be overly excited, extra angry, and very scared. Their interactions with other people will also be problematic. Especially when other children began to refer to them as 'the child who cries a lot' or 'the child who gets angry easily'.
Morin adds that some sensitive children are not only emotionally sensitive, but they are also sensitive to any physical things that trigger their feelings. Loud noises, crowds, frenzied atmosphere can make them confused. They need to struggle hard to adapt to new things. And for those of you who have sensitive children, here's how to deal with it.
Don't tell them to stop crying
Michele Borba, Ed.D., in his book The Big Book of Parenting Solutions says that telling children to stop crying will actually trigger more crying.
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Face them calmly
Borba also said that sensitive children are very good at reading their parents' emotions. When you are tense, it will only get worse. Dealing with a crying or angry child is annoying for parents, but try to be calm
Don't call them negative
The term crybaby, timid, or shy may come out when dealing with a sensitive child. These names will actually make him cancel to solve the problem and make him stop trying to convey what he means.
Don't try to change the child's temperament
"There are children who are naturally sensitive," said Morin. Instead of trying to change their temperament, parents should accept their child's sensitivity.
Give an explanation and come to the destination early
Orissa Anggita, a psychologist at Dandelion House, advises parents who have children with sensitive temperaments to diligently explain to their children if they want to take them somewhere. Tell them what's there and who they'll meet. If necessary, show photos. This will help him imagine and prepare.
Also, arrive early so that you and your child have time to look around and get used to the location.
Give quiet time
Morin recommends giving children time to do activities that relax them, such as listening to music or drawing. This can help calm their explosive emotions.
Consistent and Firm
You also have to stay consistent and firm with sensitive people who cry or get angry easily. Often parents don't want to be firm with their children because they can't bear to see their children cry. Crying is a way for them to be free from being scolded and punished. Keep showing them boundaries.
Encourage them to communicate clearly
Show them how to get their point across clearly. Tell him, “Mommy or Daddy don't understand what you mean when you just cry. Try saying what you want."
Appreciate every effort
Give appreciation when your child is able to make progress. This will encourage him to make other advances.
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