Kids Ask About Tough Topics, Here's How To Respond To Child Psychiatrist's Advice

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YOGYAKARTA – Children often ask unexpected things. Even difficult things, for example about God, where babies can be in the mother's stomach, to the cases they see on television. These topics include difficult to explain according to their experience and knowledge that is different from adults. Therefore, parents need to answer it wisely so that they can understand it.

According to the advice of child psychologist, Lea Lis, MD., launched Psychology Today, Wednesday, August 3, the following tricks she suggests to answer questions about difficult topics.

1. Answer honestly

It is very important to be honest with your child. It is also important to be tactful and use language appropriate to his development. As much as possible, find aphorisms in each story and be a good role model.

If you can answer their questions calmly, instill beliefs and family values, this will benefit your child's moral development.

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2. No need to include graphic details

Answering difficult questions, there is no need to include details of events so that they do not feel anxious or afraid. Or even they do not understand what is meant. That is, draw a picture that is easy for children to imagine and understand.

3. Give an age-appropriate explanation

Children may be too young to perceive and talk about the traumatic event. But it is the responsibility of parents to teach family values and morality. According to Lea, she believes that whatever values your family holds, it is important to instill them in a way that is age-appropriate.

4. Avoid letting children see the news

Lots of news that might invite tough questions. It can even make children feel stressed, anxious, and afraid. So, as much as possible avoid letting children see the news. Try to manage your own anxiety and fear in front of the children. Instead, focus on the story's heroes or dig deeper into what they know and learn from the shows they see. More importantly, be a role model for expressing emotions in a healthy way.

5. Create a safe space to ask tough questions

Forbidding children to ask a lot of questions, of course, is not a solution. The more they ask, the more they can explore outside experiences. On the one hand, this will be useful for them as a provision. That means, parents need to create a safe space to ask difficult questions for children.

In addition, encourage children to establish and identify their own values. Next, have a thoughtful discussion about how your values and theirs might differ.