5 Signs You And Your Partner Are Not Ready To Have Children

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JAKARTA - After getting married, there are married couples who want to have children soon. However, there are also those who decide to postpone having children. Talking about having children, what are the signs when a married couple is not ready for it? Launching Mind Body Green, Wednesday, March 2, here are the signs.

You don't feel well enough

Pregnancy requires great attention to the body, mentally and physically. There are many ways to support fertility. Before turning 40, you have time to take care of your health so that you and your baby can be as healthy as possible. But for those of you who will be 40 years old, you should focus more on this. If you're 40 and unsure about your health, talk to your OB-GYN or fertility specialist about options for getting pregnant at 40.

Weak marital relationship

Many couples think having children will save the relationship. Unfortunately, this assumption is not necessarily true. If you and your partner's marriage isn't strong enough and you don't engage in healthy communication, then it's best to fix the relationship before deciding to have children.

Feeling pressured to have children

Before planning to have children, ask yourself how much you want a child. External factors such as family influences and environmental pressures make you think of having children when in fact in your heart you are not ready for it.

Wanting children to be able to meet personal needs

Raising a child means that you are ready to nurture and support the new life you are creating, not thinking about what you can get from your child. Children are a blessing, but they are not responsible for saving their parents' failed marriage relationship, nor are they obliged to meet your needs when they grow up. If you still have these two thoughts, it means you are not ready to have children.

Still struggling financially

Raising children is expensive. You need to set up savings to pay for all the needs of the child. If your finances are not in good shape, consider whether it is in your best interest to wait until you are in a better financial position.