JAKARTA - Words have two powers, they can be fun or hurt. The challenge is that when you are young and new to the world, the words you hear often play an important role in shaping who you are and your view of the world.
Especially when you are a parent. The way you talk about yourself has an impact on your children, just as much as the way you talk about them. Parents are their first example in the world, parents are their first love and first role model. Everything you do shapes the character of the child.
If they hear you talk bad about yourself, they will think it's okay for them to talk bad about themselves. Not thinking they're pretty or just because their noses look different from other kids their age doesn't mean they're any less special.
Maureen Healy, a child psychologist in the United States, suggests that parents should learn not to call their children certain names according to their negative behavior. In other words, it reverses the script. “I have helped a boy, Tommy, start to see himself as a 'careful' person, instead of saying he is a 'coward', Healy said, quoted from Yourtango, Wednesday, January 26.
These are positive traits that are initially perceived as negative. One has to accept the bad things people say about him and believe otherwise. Because only he can decide how he feels about himself.
Of course, you are in the process of being a parent who makes mistakes sometimes. The point is that you need to be a little more aware of the words that go from the tongue to the hearts of children.
To help with that, Healy has included 10 nicknames that parents should not say to their children, namely;
whiny Picky (fussy) Weak whiny Useless Troubled Child Hypersensitive Drama queen Rebellious NaughtyThe English, Chinese, Japanese, Arabic, and French versions are automatically generated by the AI. So there may still be inaccuracies in translating, please always see Indonesian as our main language. (system supported by DigitalSiber.id)