Husbands Need To Understand, 3 Reasons Wives Fake Orgasms When Making Love

Illustration of the reason the wife has fake orgasms (Pexels/Cottonbro)

JAKARTA – Even though orgasm is not the main goal of partner sex activities, it is often a question why women do fake orgasms when making love. Apparently, this needs to be understood wisely and discussed by both partners.

According to licensed marriage and relationship therapist in California and certified sex therapist, Isadora Alman, MFT, a woman usually fakes an orgasm because she can't find the right time to tell her partner that she can't achieve it.

Reported by Psychology Today, Monday, December 27, there are 3 major reasons that might make a wife do fake orgasms. The following is Alman's explanation as well as recommended solutions for each reason.

1. Stimulation is not done 'right'

Because making love is done together, then what each person wants is to be known by his partner. Making love is also related to the action of the reaction or giving and receiving touch stimuli. However, in some cases, women experience fake orgasms because they don't know how to tell their partners what they like.

Alman advises, sometimes faking may be the easiest way to end a sexual episode that goes 'too long' without a big discussion. If this happens, Alman's recommendation, try to say what you want. Indicate which body parts you want your partner to touch.

2. Never had an orgasm

A number of studies have found that women are not expressive about their sexual experiences with their partners. It also affects how orgasms she has or has never had before.

If you have never felt it, the wife needs to know very well which body parts are the most sensitive and important spots to get an orgasm. Because every woman has different preferences regarding sensitive points, Alman suggests, there's nothing wrong with exploring the body by masturbating.

When making love, says Alman, actions speak louder than words, so give your partner direction when you're not getting an orgasm and explore more for a pleasurable sexual experience.

3. Less relaxed

As a couple, you can help your wife to relax, focus, and not be distracted by anything other than the session alone in bed. You also need to calm yourself down so that you get the instructions your partner wants. You can say, "don't try to chase orgasm, just relax and enjoy."

Give also praise so that the wife feels relaxed and confident. This is a great way to relieve pressure from either party.

If it's not about touch, talking about what a wife might need to get an orgasm is doable. Communicating is often a great way to go before the two actually have sex. What needs to be discussed, among others, is about sexual preference and building trust.