Dear Laura Anna, Thank You For Teaching 5 Lessons From An Unhealthy Dating With Gaga Muhammad

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JAKARTA – Laura Anna sued her lover legally to hold her responsible for the accident that the couple experienced on December 8, 2019. The accident occurred after both, Laura Anna and Gaga Muhammad, consumed intoxicating drinks. In the accident, Laura suffered a spinal cord injury that resulted in paralysis. But there was no goodwill from Gaga Muhammad to support Laura Anna.

Sad news includes, Laura Anna passed away this morning, Wednesday, December 15, at 09.22. This news was conveyed by Shandy Purnamasari on his social media account. Currently, Gaga is languishing in a free hotel awaiting trial.

Departing from the sad news and unhealthy relationships, there are things that can be used as lessons. A healthy dating relationship is a relationship that everyone dreams of. However, if it is not based on empathy, mutual support, and mutual support, is a love relationship still considered healthy?

Quoting from excerpts from an article by clinical psychologist and speaker at Georgetown University, Andrea Bonior, Ph.D., here are the lessons learned from unhealthy relationships and signs that you need to end the relationship.

1. Problems need to be solved together

A healthy dating relationship makes everyone feel happy. However, if only one person contributes, even presupposes and often uses the phrase 'if only', according to Bonior is a sign that this couple will never really get along if they are together.

Problems in love, of course related to relationships, need to be resolved together. Don't just put the burden on one person, because it won't solve the problem but will only make it more annoying.

2. Must understand each other

Maybe someone feels loved by his girlfriend under certain conditions. Or someone else is not being themselves and pretending to get their partner's love. According to Bonior, if the love is not equal between the two people who are dating can hinder emotional closeness. This type of emotional disconnection can lead to deep loneliness.

That is, understanding each other and being yourself is important in a love relationship. If there are no basic things, then it's better to be wise to end the relationship.

3. Dating needs to give and take

This is not a material thing, but concerns the smallest but essential thing, namely the equal and perfect reciprocal process in relationships. A healthy relationship, according to Bonior, is one that is flexible and uncomplicated.

If your boyfriend exhausts you and you don't get a reciprocal process, then it can be frustrating. Suggestion, Bonior, if something goes wrong maybe it can be fixed. But if it's hard to break the situation down together, it's time to make a decision.

4. Having conflict is natural

Because of mutual reciprocity, even in the smallest things such as mutual support and support, dating relationships can be healthier. That doesn't mean that a healthy relationship doesn't have conflict. But a healthy relationship can resolve conflict in a healthy way too.

Conflict can increase emotional closeness, but conflict can also backfire if one of your partners doesn't contribute to resolving it responsibly.

5. Healthy dating makes a person more developed

A healthy relationship doesn't hurt each other. Dating that makes a person more developed and does not weaken each other. Bonior reported by Psychology Today, wrote that there are magic words that are often forgotten. Like saying an apology which is the intention to be better and accept the consequences to correct mistakes.