So That The Mental Health Of A Child Is Not Disturbed, This Is The Best Way To Deal With Toxic Parents

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JAKARTA - Ideally, the relationship between parents and their children is filled with love and tolerance which makes the inner bond even closer. But in reality, not a few attitudes of parents are actually toxic to their children's mentality, and do not heal until the child grows up. For example, underestimate children's achievements and do not appreciate them, so that children grow up to be individuals who never feel useful, disappointing, and do not believe in themselves even though they have tried hard.

Then what if as an adult you realize that the attitudes of your parents in the past have become toxic to your mental state? Here are some ways to deal with toxic parenting!

Live in a separate house

As an adult, you are in control of your own life. Living under the same roof with someone who is constantly eroding your sanity is tantamount to hurting yourself. Love yourself by taking distance from your parents to restore your mental state.

Set boundaries in interactions

Restricting your parents' access to your private life is also one way of dealing with a toxic relationship. This doesn't mean you just get rid of your parents, yes, but limit how often they interact so that they don't affect your psychological state.

Accept that we can't change the past

Accepting reality is not easy, including accepting unpleasant things that are beyond our control, such as choosing which family we want to be born into. However, holding on to resentment and grudges for things that are beyond our control for too long will only aggravate our inner wounds.

No need to interfere in parental affairs

Parents may sometimes get into trouble with other family members or close relatives. Even though you are part of the family, if the cause is clearly the bad attitude of your parents, it's fine, you don't need to take full part in the case.

Don't lend money

You may easily feel sorry and uncomfortable when your parents borrow money, even though you actually object to the reason they owe it. Trust me, this is not a good habit. Parents should be able to manage their own finances. If you have other more pressing needs, such as the needs of your own children, it's better to prioritize those needs over the needs of your parents which are not considered an emergency.

Resign as a legal heir

In our society, taking distance from parents can be misinterpreted as a disobedient attitude that creates stigma. For example, when a child resigns as a legal heir because he knows his parents are not responsible for managing money, so that he is in debt. This not only makes the child not entitled to the inheritance of his parents, but also frees him from the obligation to pay off the debts that are wrapped around the parents if they die.

It is not only physical violence that hurts children and their growth, but also the bad attitude of parents. Do what you can to the best of your ability and ability, and reach out for professional help when needed!