Doctor Boyke Reveals Secrets Behind More Satisfied Intimal Relations After Arguing

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JAKARTA - Many couples may feel strange and at the same time curious why after the fight actually having sex feels more satisfying.

Domestic quarrels or romantic relationships usually leave a mixed emotion between anger, sadness, disappointment, but there is also a deep love. This phenomenon seems not new, and many couples have even admitted it.

well-known Indonesian sexologist, dr. Boyke Dian Nugraha gave an explanation of this matter. According to him, emotional conditions after the fight can actually trigger more intense passion when having sex.

"Because after the fight, we actually love him (the couple) but on the one hand we are also hurt," said dr. Boyke, quoted from the Instagram account @laporpak_podhub.

dr. Boyke said that the quarrel left a strong emotional energy. This energy can then be channeled in the form of sexual activity. There is a kind of urge to channel anger, anxiety, as well as love, into one form of physical expression, namely sexual intercourse.

"Well, the feeling of fighting wants to be expressed both (through intimate relationships). One for klepek-klepek couples, one also wants to make orgasm fast," said dr. Boyke.

Many studies and surveys have found intimate relationships after the fight often feel more passionate, emotional, and intense than during relationships in normal conditions.

According to dr. Boyke, this is not something to be afraid of. Precisely as long as it is done with awareness, mutual respect, and still prioritizes security, sex after fighting can be a means of emotional reconciliation for couples.

"So there is a sense of coldness that wants to be expressed in the form of anger but even in the form of sex. Actually, that's okay. There are even women who pinch, grab." said dr. Boyke.

Although this phenomenon is quite common, it is important for couples to remain careful. Quarrels should not be used as a trigger for intimate relationships to feel more passionate. Healthy conflicts certainly need to be resolved through good communication, not merely relying on sexual relations.

In addition, keep in mind that not everyone is comfortable with the concept of sex after a fight. Some actually feel they need a private space to calm down first. Therefore, the main key is to stay in touch, understand each other and appreciate each other's needs.