When Is The Best Time To Make Love, Morning Or Night?

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JAKARTA - Each couple has their own time preferences in making love. Some feel more passionate in the morning, while others enjoy intimacy at night more. However, is there the best time to make love? Is the morning ideal than the night, or is it the opposite?

Reported by VOI from the Huffpost page on Thursday, February 27, a 2015 survey by the sex toy company Lovehoney found that men tend to be more passionate in the morning between 6 and 9 am. Meanwhile, women are even more interested in the evening between 11 pm and 2 in the morning. The age factor can also affect this pattern.

According to sex therapist and neuroscience researcher Nan Wise, as people get older, people tend to get used to getting up early, so they enjoy sex more in the morning. On the other hand, young people who are more active and productive at night, may prefer sex at night.

However, is there really the best time to make love? Sex experts explain the advantages and lack of sex in the morning, afternoon, and evening.

One of the reasons why men prefer to make love in the morning is because of testosterone levels, hormones that play a role in sexual arousal and erectile, peaking around 8 a.m.

"For men who produce testosterone, the morning is when these hormone levels are at their highest point, because they are produced during sleep," said Robin Wilson-Beattie, an educator and sexual advocate.

In addition, sex in the morning also releases neurotransmitters that increase feelings of happiness such as endorphins and dopamines. This can make the mood better and be the start of a fun day.

However, making love in the morning also has its own challenges. Busy morning routines, ranging from preparing themselves to working to taking care of children, can make it difficult for couples to focus and enjoy intimate moments. Stress due to busy schedules can also affect sexual performance and cause disappointment if expectations are not met.

In addition, although for some sex people it can provide energy, some actually feel tired after making love. Hormones released during orgasm can have excessive relaxation effects, thus making a person want to go back to sleep, not eager to do their daily routines.

For many couples, at night it is their favorite time to make love because after a day of activities, they finally have time to relax and connect emotionally without disorders with their partner.

"With work, children, and other activities, the night is a time when things slow down, just you and your partner stay, ending the day with making love before bed," Wilson-Beattie said.

Another advantage of making love at night is the release of hormones such as prolacticine and oxytocin, which can help a person sleep better. According to Dr. Amer Khan, a neurologist and sleep specialist, a satisfying sexual relationship can improve mood, reduce stress, and help the brain rest more easily.

However, there are also shortcomings. If a person is too tired physically and mentally after a day of activities, then sexual arousal can be drastically reduced.

Stress from work or daily problems may still burden the mind, making it difficult to really enjoy intimate moments. In addition, for people with certain health conditions, the body may be too tired or sick to make love before bed.

As the trend of working from home increases, making love during the day can be an attractive option for couples who want to refresh their sex. Sex in the middle of the day can help relieve work stress and, like other physical activities, can increase mood and productivity.

"This can be the perfect compromise for couples who have different sex time preferences," said sex therapist Nazanin Moali.

"In addition, this can also introduce changes in partner sex routines, thus helping them get out of sexual boredom," he added.

However, making love during the day certainly has its own challenges, especially for those who have children at home or a busy work schedule.

When Is The Best Time To Make Love?

Experts agree that there is no really ideal time to make love. It all depends on the preferences of individuals and partners. If your partner has a difference in time preferences, the key is open communication and finding compromise that can accommodate each other's desires.

If you want to increase sexual arousal beyond your favorite time, try some tricks such as mindfulness training, reading erotics, or doing physical activities such as bathing or exercise.

In addition, remember that sex does not always have to be in the form of penetration. Foreplay, massage, or intimidation together can also be an alternative to increase intimacy.

"It doesn't always have to be in the form of full sexual intercourse or involving intense friction," said Wise.

"It can also be with outside stimulation, or other activities that feel fun, erotic, and full of games." he continued.

In the end, the most important thing is to find the time that suits your lifestyle and emotional needs as well as your partner. It doesn't matter morning, day, or night, as long as you and your partner feel comfortable and connected, then that's the best time to make love.