4 Situations That Are Often Experienced But Reluctant To Ask For Help

Illustration of the situation that is often experienced but reluctant to ask for help (Unsplash / Vitaliy Shevchenko)

YOGYAKARTA In living life, often faces challenges. However, because you want to be independent or look strong, someone is reluctant to ask for help. This mindset actually needs to be avoided because it can cause the loss of opportunities to connect with those closest to you. Here, four situations are often experienced but reluctant to ask for help.

Stress accumulates because they do daily tasks, they are often ignored. Whether it's a job target, financial pressure, or domestic tasks. Usually people who experience it think that other people are dealing with it too, so feel there's no reason to complain.

According to psychologist Markploy, Ph.D., this mindset prevents you from seeking help and thinking you deserve to bear the burden alone. According to 2010 research published in Personal and Individual Differences, lower emotional acceptance is associated with the highest level of depression. So, sharing that feeling is okay. You need to be open so you have the opportunity to ask for help from those closest to you. Because launching Psychology Today, Wednesday, January 29, harboring long-term stress causes fatigue or emotional death. It also makes you far away or away from those who care about you.

Sadness when losing a loved one, losing a job or friend, even losing an identity, sometimes makes us believe when life has to go on so as to avoid the burden of sadness. Maybe, we don't want to be stuck in sadness for a long time. But sadness is one of the most in-depth human experiences. When neglecting others during these moments, we will lose the opportunity to heal together.

A 2022 study found that seeking help is the only treatment that effectively reduces the negative impact of sadness on quality of life, especially for those who experience severe sadness. So keep in mind, those closest to you will support you. Share deep sadness also build meaningful relationships with them.

Anger is often seen as a negative emotion that must be suppressed or kept on its own. Instead of revealing it, you may choose to remain silent when you are angry. However, raising your needs and letting someone who understands what is troubling you, open up opportunities to solve problems together. It should be understood, expressing anger does not mean venting it. On the other hand, with the emotional support of those closest to you, you have the opportunity to prevent frustration from piling up.

Everyone has experienced times when they doubt themselves. Whether it's about your abilities, appearance, even relationships. But how often you smile covers your discomfort and pretends to be confident when you are under the umbrella of doubt, it actually makes you look weak. In reality, asking for support when you feel insecure is a trust measure. This allows others to assert and encourage you, strengthen the bond between you.

Vulnerability when you feel insecure shows that you are willing to let someone see the true version of you. This creates intimacy and allows others to feel that they can do the same with you, which strengthens your emotional relationship.

When experiencing a sad situation, sadness, feeling insecure, emotional support is important for your mental health. So, asking for help confirms that we humans who always struggle become stronger with the support of those closest to us.