Do These 8 Ways So That Children Are Confident In Expressing Their Opinions
YOGYAKARTA Children often do not believe in themselves or are embarrassed to express their opinions. In fact, children who can express opinions will feel empowered. Well, confidence for children is very important, right? So to teach children to be confident in expressing their opinions, here are the ways parents can do it.
When relatives or neighbors ask your child, let them answer the question themselves. Others may ask about the news, how class, where to school, or what hobbies they like. Get used to children talking or answering questions addressed to them.
Parents often answer questions for them, it could be because their children are shy or their confidence has not yet been built. According to behavior specialist Marcie Beigel, BCBA-D., stopping the habit of helping children answer questions for them, will increase strength and be important in encouraging children to be moved in various new situations.
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It is important for parents to spend time chatting with their children. Maybe when eating together, talk about important topics for the family. Ask your children's opinion and wait for them to answer, Beigel's suggestion was reported by Parents, Friday, August 30.
Parents should also always want to know what their children think. Like by asking questions and giving children space to answer and explain.
It is very important not to judge children's answers or opinions as much as possible. Appreciation of children's opinions because they have tried to express their thoughts. If judged, children will find it difficult to open and may close themselves.
Choices are simple, for example, choose strawberries or blueberries. Or choose to read what books before bed. Even let the child choose what clothes he wants to wear while playing. This choice looks simple, but the impact is big. By giving the option, children are used to voicing what they want, says certified counselor Kathryn Ely, JD.
Labeling means giving a category that greatly hinders self-confidence. So avoid labeling children, because children can easily adjust the identity given by their parents. It also makes it difficult for children or teenagers to find their voices and express their opinions. Ely's advice, provide support when the child tries to find their way and avoid comparing with other children.
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Use a spontaneous moment to exemplify firmness. This can be an attempt to attract attention politely, change your mind, or admit mistakes by apologizing. You can even show your opinion on disapproval but remain respectful and diplomatic. According to psychotherapist Mia Rosenberg, LSCW., giving an example is a great way to help show your child that it's okay to speak up and be firm without feeling it will hurt other people's hearts.
Use reliable sources in expressing opinions. It also needs to be taught to children, that expressing opinions must also have a measure of truth. So teach in expressing opinions must include information to support their opinions. It also helps children to think critically and have the ability to make decisions based on real reasons.
That's how to teach children to be confident in expressing their opinions. It could also involve children participating in a goal they are interested in. Support them and understand that strong opinions have a major impact on the attitudes and actions they choose.