8 Causes Of Loss Of Love Relationships, Communication Issues Become The Main Reason

JAKARTA - Have you ever heard or even found, relationships that have been going on for a long time, either dating or marriage, but have to end happily? Not all relationships are destined to last forever.

Among the many reasons, the eight things below are quite often stated as the cause of the breakdown of the relationship. What are these reasons? See more as quoted from Psychology Today, Tuesday, July 2.

Trust issues

Lack or loss of trust is one of the most dangerous things in relationships. Without confidence, relationships will lose the main pillar. If you believe trust is a big problem in relationships, check again whether lack of trust is based on proof patterns (such as significant broken promises), or largely due to subjective emotions (such as jealousy for no reason). Consider honestly whether lack of trust is based on unwarranted real substance or fear.

Different expectations

Over time, expectations in relationships will be different. Because there the plan of each plan of life begins to appear. It could be that you are more concerned with your family, while your partner doesn't really think about it. In other ways, you are a person who is more sympathetic while your partner is ignorant. This small problem can cause separation if it can't be resolved properly.

Different life steps

When one partner learns and develops rapidly, while the other partner stagnates, this can lead to differences. One example is that the couple is experiencing rapid progress in career and social, while their partner is stagnant at home. The couple's professional and social circle began to deviate, and soon the couple itself became differentiable. So that they grew apart physically, intellectually, and socially.

Communication Problems

A number of studies have identified communication (or lack of communication) as one of the main reasons for the breakup of relations and divorce. John Gottman of the University of Washington, a leading couple study expert, concluded after conducting more than 20 years of research that the only best divorce predictor was when one or both partners showed reluctant to establish relationships again with silence.

Narsistics

Narcistics have excessive feelings about the importance of themselves and need to be admired. Narsism is often characterized by a lack of true intimacy in relationships.

Signs of crissisism include superiority, excessive self-image, arrogance, violation of boundaries, fake charm, manipulation, irresponsibleness, rule violation, negative emotions, and insults to others. Significantly, research shows that high disability correlates with vulnerability to infidelity.

Harassment in relationships

Harassment in relationships can be defined as repeated abuse of a partner. Examples include verbal, emotional, physical, and/or sexual abuse, pathological manipulation, pathological disability, pathological passive aggressiveness, and excessive control and dominance.

Bad living habits

Bad living habits are properties that, even if they involve or not directly involve their partner (such as secret gambling addiction), in the end, can affect relationships in a destructive way. Examples of misuse of life habits include addiction to drugs, addiction to alcohol, addiction to gambling, and sexual addiction.

Financial problems

The longer the couple is in a relationship, the greater the financial incompatibility is revealed. According to research, differences of opinion about money are one of the main reasons for divorce. Problems and disputes over money are one of the deepest psychological needs and fears, including and not limited to trust, safety, security, power, control, and survival.