7 Mistakes Made When Overcoming Painful Emotions

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YOGYAKARTA Painful emotions are internal experiences and are temporary. This is part of everyday life, but many people make mistakes in overcoming these uncomfortable emotions.

There are various emotional spectra throughout life experience. What is painful and negative, may be difficult to overcome. It even becomes the toughest obstacle to go through. In dealing with painful emotions, many people still make the following mistakes.

The most common obstacle when dealing with emotions is to identify it excessively. For example, considering ourselves to be emotional. This is natural to happen, wrote clinical psychologist consultant Liz White, DClinPsy., CPsychol. reported Psychology Today, Sunday, October 15. Strong emotions and makes us feel sad this is, it's natural to be burdensome. Tips from White, keep in mind that emotions are just internal feelings that we experience, nothing more and nothing less. That means, emotions don't define ourselves. Change from perception I' is this feeling I'm feeling this feeling.

Like shaking a soda can, when opened it can explode or express pressure. So, ignoring or harboring emotions may appear a quick solution but it won't help if it's not released. The tips, admit and express emotions effectively are important. You need to find a healthy way out to help process these feelings. For example by journaling, talking to friends, or seeking professional help.

Self-assessing can even drop, like 'I shouldn't feel like this'. This is a form of criticism that doesn't help relieve when experiencing feelings of pain. Precisely criticism and self-assessment, it can add to the intensity of emotions. So expert tips, find sentences that are calm and full of affection. Avoid judging at difficult times.

Generally done by many people to intellectualize emotions rather than fully understanding. For example, intellectualizing in the form of thinking too much about emotions, spending a lot of time understanding the root of the problem, and understanding intellectually about emotions but not letting yourself feel it completely.

Although it is difficult to understand the cause of emotions, it is still important to do. But expert advice, it is important to ask yourself about where you feel such emotions in the body.

Distraction may be a useful strategy for the short term. However, if used excessively can make you avoid and inhibit the process of emotions in a healthy manner. Tip experts, try making journals that write down your feelings in difficult times. In addition, try taking breaks, breathing exercise, paying full attention to yourself, and mentioning what emotions are. This strategy helps you observe these feelings and then you have a better position to choose how to respond.

When experiencing painful emotions, we often assume that these emotions never end. This is certainly inaccurate and will not ease. So understand, that emotions are temporary, they come and go, shift and change.

It's natural that we rely on loved ones when feeling painful emotions. This is an integral part of dealing with other people, namely sharing pain that can be a healthy way to process emotions is difficult. However, expecting others to take a role to relieve pain, it's unrealistic.

If you need to develop the ability to manage emotions is difficult. Can do various healthy ways. For example through breathing exercises that make you more grounded. It is also important to love yourself and say positive affirmations so that you can calm down.