4 Red Flag Behaviors From Excise With High Conflicts

Illustration of the red flag behavior of people with high conflict personality (Freepik/coconie_studio)

YOGYAKARTA People with high conflict, or high conflict people (HCPs), have certain characteristics, especially those related to external relationships or with those around them. This characteristic is not personality disorders, meaning it is not a diagnosis but it is a description of behavior. According to Bill Eddy's therapist and lawyer, LSCW., JD., a person with personality disorders such as eccentricity, borderline, antisocial, hysteronic, and paranoid behavior tends to be vulnerable to high conflict behavior.

Launching the High Conflict Institute page, Friday, May 5, people with high conflicts have a pattern of behavior that increases conflicts rather than reduces or resolves them. This means, someone with a high conflict, can not see their own part in the problems they face and therefore not try to change. The following is the red flag behavior of someone with a high conflict, whether they have or do not have personality disorders.

Have you ever listened to my neighbor's statement'my neighbors are destroying everything', 'it's all a divorce because it's his fault', your partner really destroys the business'? This statement may be the right time. But it's a good idea to check the situation because it could be a red flag statement.

Seseoang who blames others, may not be responsible as it should be. So if you want to test your commitment with your partner, it's better to plan to work on a project together first. That way, you can find out how much commitment, responsibility, and healthy relationships are established.

It seems that someone with a high conflict often talks the term all or nothing'. They tend to see people as all good or all bad. They also often respond to disagreements with a much larger assessment of the whole relationship. For example, If not so let's just separate.

Partners with high conflict may surprise you one day. Especially when suddenly blowing up great anger because of small or even no problems. Until you often ask yourself 'is there something wrong with me?' and it's not you who's in trouble but because your partner doesn't manage emotions well.

Sometimes extreme behavior patterns develop when you get to know that person. At other times, they are involved in extreme behavior that most people don't do in general. Launching Psychology Today, Friday, May 5, people with HCP are often accustomed to quick reasons for their extreme behavior. The reason that is often thrown out is a warning sign. For example, 'I would damage my relationship if I cut ties with me', and other reasons that actually don't make sense and red flags.

Eddy at the closing of his review gave a recommendation, knowing the behavior of red flags is important to improve. More importantly, it can be a reference in building healthy relationships.