What To Do If You Lose Your Interest In Your Partner?

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JAKARTA - The initial stage of the relationship is usually characterized by the interest and chemistry that unites your partner. But over time, it's natural that interest changes or fades. If you've recently felt a loss of interest in your partner, you may be wondering what needs to be done to restore that feeling.

This article will discuss several steps you can take to grow more interest that is starting to fade, reported by Very Well Mind, Tuesday, April 16.

Try to find out the cause

Try to understand the origin or the cause behind the loss of interest. Remember, the cause can be physical or emotional. Try to identify what caused this feeling for the first time and pay attention to what triggers it when you are with your partner, so you can handle it if possible. Alternatively, think about what initially made you interested in your partner and consider what changed. Reflecting on what you want and what you need from your partner you haven't got can be very helpful in this regard.

Communicate with your partner

Once you understand what is wrong or missing, open communication with your partner about the problem and the potential causes that you have identified. Try discussing it with your partner through a solution-focused approach. It is important to have this conversation respectfully, without criticizing or blaming your partner, but by expressing your feelings and asking what you want in person.

Practice actively listening

During discussions with your partner, try to listen to your opinion too. For example, they may feel that their efforts often do not produce results, so they stop trying. Apart from asking what you want, it is also important to ask what they need from you.

Care for a relationship

If you want more fun, joy, or romance in the relationship, take active steps to bring these elements into the relationship. Join the first step of yourself to start what you want to feel, rather than wait for your partner to get started.

Practice doing so on the basis of love and attention, without expectations, bitterness, or unspoken hatred. Pay attention to how it feels to invite your partner to join you in what you want to share with him.

Prioritize shared time

Prioritize spending time with your partner, either to do things you both like, find new interests together, or just take a walk together.

Focus on positive things

Once negative thoughts arise, it can take over and make it difficult for you to appreciate the positive aspects of your partner and relationship. It is important to change this pattern by actively trying to recognize the positive quality of your partner. You can try to create a journal of gratitude where you write one thing that is appreciated about your partner or relationship every day.

Avoid comparisons

Every relationship dynamic is unique. Instead of comparing your relationship with other people, focus on what makes your relationship special.