7 Signs Of Toxic Friends, Immediately Stay Away If They Are Around You

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JAKARTA - Having friends is certainly very fun. However, without realizing it there are some friends who tend to be toxic or toxic, so it can drain emotions to make you feel frustrated. So, how do you know that the friends you have are toxic people and need to be avoided?

Dr. Patrice Le Goy as quoted by Very Well Mind, Wednesday, January 31 explained that toxic friends tend to think more about themselves and are reluctant to think about others. In fact, in general, friendship life must be 50:50 or equally fair between you and friends, not just one person.

Do you feel that every time you talk to a friend, he always says something negative about you? This can be in the form of criticism of your behavior, appearance, relationships, performance at work, family, or other elements in life. Remember, the presence of friends is meant to encourage, not worry if you are not good enough.

There is no term winner in friendship. On the other hand, the essence of friendship is support. If a friend is jealous when you tell him good news about you or if he constantly shows things that make his life better, it's toxic behavior.

"You realize you have toxic friends at each interaction, you feel worse than before," Le Goy said.

This can happen because it is criticized, manipulative, or competitive with you. Whatever the reason, if you leave interaction with a worse feeling and not better, that means there is a problem.

Apart from sharing, friends must also be trusted to keep secrets. However, if the secret you trust is leaked to other people because of the actions of your friends. So you can be sure that your friend is toxic that needs to be avoided.

Maybe friends admit mistakes to you, but you feel his apology is not sincere. Or maybe when he wants to say something good to you, your instincts say that he's not serious. It could be that he says good things because he wants something from you. Pay attention to his actions, not just his words.

Toxic friends try to create distance between you and other relationships in your life. This can be done by criticizing your partner, spreading gossip about friends, or even talking negatively about your co-workers. Toxic friends do this so that you become more dependent on it, so that it gets more and more trapped in friendship.