5 Ways To Discipline Children's Behavior With Positive And Negative Consequences

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JAKARTA - When most parents think of consequences for their children, they usually imagine negative consequences, such as time outs or game bans. Although negative consequences play an important role in changing children's behavior, positive consequences are also an effective means of discipline.

If used simultaneously, the impact of these consequences will change children's behavior during use consistently. Use positive consequences to strengthen good behavior and apply negative consequences to prevent bad behavior.

Good behavior often goes unnoticed. However, strengthening good things with positive consequences will encourage children to continue to do these good deeds.

Giving positive consequences to children should not be in the form of giving gifts every time they help you do your homework. There are many ways to strengthen good behavior by giving positive consequences. Here are examples;

Positive attention: Talking to children, playing with them, and knowing children more can encourage them to continue to do good things.

Praise: Say things like, "You're a good help today" or "Father/Mother really likes the way you play quietly with your blocks."

Real returns: Rewards can include daily privileges such as TV viewing time or can be in the form of getting new things, such as a walk to the park. This system can be a very effective way to strengthen children's good behavior.

When using negative consequences, make sure that the consequences you choose can actually hinder your child's behavior. For example, prohibiting TV viewing will not be an effective consequence if your child uses a laptop to watch online events.

While some children may miss TV, others may not mind at all if TV viewing privileges are revoked. As a result, negative consequences should be specific to your child. Here are some examples of negative consequences.

Logic consequences: Logical consequences are directly related to bad behavior. For example, if the child does not use his bicycle properly, then take his bicycle.

Ignoring: If children show attention seeking behavior, such as tantrums, then try to ignore these behaviors.

Time-out: Putting children in a short silence can prevent them from making mistakes again.

Additional responsibility: Providing additional tasks can be an effective consequence.

Sometimes, parents accidentally actually strengthen negative behavior. Unfortunately, this can worsen behavioral problems. For example, by begging a child who is a food voter to 'wage a bribe for food again' or asking the little one to stop defaming'. Without realizing it, these actions actually make the child repeat these behaviors.

Therefore, praise good behavior and ignore some of the mild bad behavior. And when a child violates the rules, give negative consequences.

When applying consequences, it is important to be calm and consistent, especially if you use negative consequences. Use a neutral tone. Explain the consequences to the child and why he deserves consequences. Talk about children's rules and behavior.

The goal is for children to learn to change their behavior when faced with the situation again. Meanwhile, look for opportunities to see your child do something good and then strengthen this with positive consequences. By implementing these two strategies, you will find that disciplining children is not as difficult as imagined.