According To The Expert, Children Should Not Be Involved In Parents' Infidelity

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JAKARTA - Infidelity that occurs between married couples should not involve children, said psychologist Kasandra Putranto. The impact felt by children exposed to infidelity varies depending on the age and mental quality of children, the condition of conflicts of infidelity, and intervention.

"Generally, children who are victims of infidelity have the characteristics of CEN (Childhood Emotional Negligence) because their parents are busy cheating and fighting, so children's emotional needs are not fulfilled," Kasandra said, as reported by ANTARA.

Reported by Good Therapy, the characteristics of CEN that can appear as an adult can include lack of self-confidence, feeling empty, feeling that something is missing but not knowing anything or feeling immune from a feeling. Kasandra suggested not to spread family dramas excessively so as not to cause trauma to children. He also explained that an affair is usually caused by several factors. First, the perpetrator factor.

"They have a distinctive profile with more emotional, sexual, financial and other needs, so they seek relationships outside of their official relationship."

The second factor is the perpetrator's partner. They usually have a distinctive psychological profile that provides reasons for the perpetrators to justify their cheating behavior. This could be related to physical, emotional, attention, education, or behavior. Infidelity can also arise due to environmental pressure, such as friends or family, as well as information technology factors where access is easier, wider and faster.