Differences In Manipulative And True People Need Support, Here Are The Characteristics

Illustration of manipulative and honest differences in persons that need to be recognized for their characteristics (Unsplash/Kristopher Roller)

YOGYAKARTA Hearing complaints relentlessly, may make you feel uncomfortable. On the one hand, wanting to help on the other hand is worried about being manipulated. As someone who has empathy, of course you need to get honest and respected treatment. But what if you complain only to manipulate?

Erin Leonard, Ph.D., a psychotherapist reported by Psychology Today, Monday, November 28, made three lists of differences in which flexible and honest attitudes require support. Here's the full explanation.

Manipulative people basically complain that they aim to control other people or their listeners. For that, they want to be heard not to get support. In fact, he wants to show the belief that his life is more difficult than someone else's life and is not based on empathy.

The difference is with people who really need support, they often worry about burdening their listeners. He is also active when interacting, meaning that communication is not one direction but one another. They also want feedback and receive empathy.

By acting as an injured party, the person has the opportunity to cause guilt. That way, they use difficulties as an excuse to exploit someone's kindness. These are the characteristics of a manipulative person who needs to be recognized.

On the other hand, someone who sincerely expresses problems is not to get the good of others. The goal is to feel understood and have no hidden meaning when telling the problem.

Judging from how someone takes responsibility, it can be recognized whether they are honest or manipulating. A person who is manipulative, often tries to avoid accountability by using past difficulties so that other people feel empathetic and understand if they are not responsible.

On the other hand, people who struggle sincerely and need to process what they feel, can usually become vulnerable. Vulnerabilities, explained Leonard, are the capacity to identify and discuss uncomfortable and troublesome emotions. Because honestly, they can identify, circulate, and understand what they have to do.

While you want to help, it's important to recognize who is manipulating and who is honest. Because to avoid being used and build good and emotionally healthy relationships.