JAKARTA - Recently, the term childfree has been widely discussed because more and more people are open to saying they don't want to have children after marriage, one of which is Rina Nose. Before getting married, she admitted that she had agreed with her partner not to have children.
Rina Nose feels unable to think about ways to educate, to unite the child's will according to his wishes and his husband.
"I always say, 'Ah, you're overthinking'. Yes, you have to, in my opinion, there's no problem overthinking either. Precisely with overthinking I have to be able to solve problems that haven't even arrived yet," he said, quoted from Melaney Ricardo's YouTube channel, Saturday, September 17.
Her husband, Josscy Vallazza, agreed and agreed to receive a request from Rina Nose before getting married.
Adult clinical psychologist Nirmala Ika Kusumaningrum, M.Psi, said having one or not at all (childfree) is not a new trend among millennials, but it is an option.
"This is an option. For example, I see that my sister has many children, continue to see my friend, one child and happy. Finally decided to have only one child. It was not a infection but a process from us to think," said the graduate of the Faculty of Psychology, University of Indonesia (UI) quoted from ANTARA, Monday, September 26.
Nirmala said husband and wife should have an agreement when deciding to have children. Comments from people in the neighborhood should not affect a decision.
In deciding the number of children, husbands and wives must consider the financial, emotional, and future parenting aspects. Because, this will affect the growth and development of children to adults.
Meanwhile, the decision not to have children also needs to be discussed openly between husband and wife, not because they follow other people's choices.
"What is careful is that we join because of the trend, people have many children, we also have one child, even though we really don't agree with our husbands and wives," said Nirmala.
"It must be clear why we choose childfree, if because of the trend, it's wrong. That's why I say this is an option. We choose childfree with various considerations agreed by both parties," he continued.
According to Nirmala, currently, millennial couples benefit from the many accesses to explore information about family, children and mental health problems.
These information can help couples to determine which one is best and suitable for their small family to live with.
In the past there was no choice, after marriage we had to have children. Now we have the option to limit the number of children, postpone pregnancy and have no children at all, the important thing is that the reasons are agreed by both parties," said Nirmala.
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