Can Be Evaluated, It Turns Out That These 4 Things Cause Children To Be Fearful Of Opening With Parents

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JAKARTA - Communication is one of the important aspects that must be in the family. Each family member needs to build transparent communication. In order to help other family members in providing positive control, input, and suggestions. Especially in this case communication between children and parents.

Unfortunately, not all children, especially teenagers, today, want to share stories with their parents. They feel more secure and comfortable if they have to share activities or problems with friends or friends. Launching the Dayton Children's page, Monday, September 19, an expert on Oftalmology says there are at least four reasons why children are reluctant to open up to their parents.

Many children feel wasted talking to their parents because they think their parents will interrupt them and tell them they are wrong. Children think parents talk more or advise more than listen to their complaints. Remember, growing up today is much different from when you were a child. Stop talking and compare about your experience with your child. Try to understand their world.

The second reason why children are reluctant to open up is because they are afraid of being punished if they tell you certain things. This can certainly lead to a dilemma. If the child tells you that they smoke or cheat during the exam, what will you do? Surely you will respond with anger, right?

You want to encourage them to be open, but at certain points you also have to improve your child's bad behavior. For that, as a parent you need to be wise in dealing with your child's complaints. As much as possible, avoid using harsh words or loud voices. Try to give wise advice in words but can be understood by the child well.

It is the attitudes and demands of parents themselves that sometimes make children not want to talk openly. Expectations are also the expectations of parents who are too high as an example.

It is also often the cause of children being afraid to be open to their parents. Not infrequently this condition is carried away to teenagers and adults. Children sometimes don't want to disappoint and hurt their parents' high expectations when they are open to something that involves mistakes or problems. Children are afraid these things will lose the trust that parents give.

Children do not want to be open with their parents for fear of making their parents worried. They choose to save their own problems because they don't want to add to the burden of life that their parents have faced. For that, instead of telling stories, they prefer to pour problems on friends, relatives, or relatives.

In dealing with this unopened child's attitude, it is better for parents to also introspect before starting to blame their child. A good attitude needs to be formed to support good communication. In addition, good attitude and words will also be an example for children.