In Order Not To Be Trapped In A Toxic Relationship, Pay Attention To Red Flags In Romantic Relationships

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JAKARTA - When starting a relationship with someone, sometimes the romance and excitement of falling in love can blind you. No wonder if in this condition, most people forget to be aware of the red flag signs of their relationship.

A red flag is a person's behavior that could be a sign that you are in an unhealthy or toxic relationship. Usually, red flags can be seen and detected early in the relationship. But some of you may still not sure if it's really a red flag or just a feeling alone.

If you are not sure, first identify the character of your partner so that there are no misunderstandings. If the behavior is dangerous and unpleasant, it's best if you stop and not cut off the relationship.

Often lie

Constantly catching your partner's lies is not a good thing. "We've all lied. But if your partner is consistently lying, it's a red flag," says Samara Quintero, licensed marriage and family therapist at Choosing Therapy.

This could be a small lie, such as being dishonest about their purpose in life or a big lie, such as not telling you how much debt they owe.

Being lied to over and over again makes it difficult for you to build a strong foundation in the relationship or destroys what you have built.

Criticism drops

Criticism is necessary to make a person grow. However, if the criticism brings you down to the point of losing your self-esteem, this is very dangerous and a strong signal for an unhealthy relationship.

A 2013 study showed that emotional abuse is just as dangerous as physical abuse. Both contribute to depression.

Tend to run away in difficult situations

Relationships can end easily if you choose a partner who doesn't have the emotional or behavioral skills needed to deal with problems. For example, he may choose to walk away from an argument without listening to you, or to ignore you for days at a time when the going gets tough.

Even healthy relationships will go through tough times. So it's a good idea to make sure to choose a partner who is able to communicate effectively with you, instead of running away when you are in trouble.

Manipulative

A red flag sign in the next relationship is when your partner is manipulative towards you. Manipulative or often also called gaslighting is an attitude of emotional abuse in a relationship that makes the victim feel doubtful about himself, so that the perpetrator can control the victim easily.