Household Relationships Are No Longer Romantic, Is It Reasonable?

Illustration of a no longer romantic couple (Pexels/Cottonbro)

JAKARTA – Together forever wading through the ark of marriage is certainly the hope of every couple. In joy or sorrow, both are blameless or choose to keep the sacred promise in front of the prince. But what if the relationship feels bland and no longer as romantic as at the start of the marriage?

Reported by Guy Stuff Counseling & Couching, based on the fact that many married couples have experienced 'winter'. Not romantic does not mean not falling in love again right?

Romance is a collection of behaviors that stem from a state of mind related to the excitement and mystery of loving someone with the expectation of love in return. This is why affirmations are needed in every behavior to express feelings of love.

Romance is also often understood as the behavior of giving flowers, gifts, poetry, and love songs. But romance is not always done with these actions. There are some simple things that can be called romantic acts.

In essence, romantic actions are done to express love. So, if you don't feel the expression of love from your partner, the relationship feels cold.

"Romantic gestures don't have to be complicated or costly, they just have to be intentional and sincere," says Dr. Kurt, a marriage and family therapist.

You can reach out when helping your partner stand up. Or by sending a message to make your partner more excited.

If you feel anxious that you no longer feel the romantic moments of your partner, calm down. Romance is not the only expression of love. Many people express their love not with romantic behavior. His actions were quite ordinary, simple, and sincere.

So what if even a simple act doesn't describe romance? Kurt suggests trying to do things that matter. Because you already know and are used to your partner so it is difficult to take spontaneous and romantic actions, there is nothing wrong with planning.

Kurt's further message, romance is not a one-man experience. It takes two people so that the relationship between husband and wife is warm and romantic again.

Virginia Williamson, a marriage therapist, says that it can be dangerous not to see one good thing in her partner. This means, romantic household relationships are based on assuming that each other has goodness so that they always fall in love.

It is also important to pay attention to body language, level of respect, and comfort when together. If these three things tend to be negative, then you and your partner can discuss and find an agreed solution.