When Less Optimistic, Here Are 5 Simple Ways To Help Overcome

Illustration of simple ways to help overcome when less optimistic (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA The future that looks gray and makes you no longer excited to face every challenge, could be because your level of optimism is declining. A marriage and family therapist, Allu Spotts-De Lazzer, MD., LMFT., LPCC., CEDC-S., said many of his clients in the consulting room experienced this. Although how to overcome less optimistic can be very personal, Lazzer provides the following simple tips.

Don't press yourself to be optimistic if you don't feel it. The idea of pretending to be successful can be confusing. According to the Lazzer experience, forcing yourself to always be optimistic when you are sad or afraid to act, is not in harmony. So it's important to really recognize what you're feeling. By identifying, maybe you can find the root of the problem. For example, out of fear, sadness, vulnerability, or emotions that make you uncomfortable others.

Neural science research shows that naming what you feel can help tame it, reported by Psychology Today, March 2. Naming emotions means it can also provide direction. For example, when you feel afraid, it will be more deeply known why and how you can make the right plan to deal with the situation if experienced again.

Do you tell yourself that 'it all feels annoying'. Actually, stating the pessimistic sentence, not all of them are bad. If you think everything feels annoying because never get the job you expect and it's annoying', maybe more honest. So Lazzer suggests, try to test your mind. Don't get caught up in a mindset that doesn't help. Try to challenge yourself and pay honestly what you really feel and why.

It's important to feel things that make you feel less optimistic. Whether it's about what happened earlier, or unpleasant news, social media, or relationships that don't match expectations. Lazzer advice, try to experiment by changing your response when facing the trigger.

If suddenly feels something is wrong, it could be because there are certain things that affect the mood. Such as lack of certain food nutrients or the time for overall health checks. Vitamin D in the body is lacking, it turns out that it also affects the mood. So in addition to ensuring what triggers are less optimistic, it is also important to continue to consume nutritious food to support mental and physical health.

Give yourself a time limit on how long you will allow yourself to be 'unexcited'. Less optimistic about being constantly for more than two weeks, is a sign of experiencing a depression episode, according to the American Psychiatric Association. So, it's important to monitor boundaries or create boundaries. If you need professional help, you can consult a psychologist or psychiatrist.

According to Lazzer, sometimes life is difficult. Stressors who we don't recognize, can make optimism receding. So it's important to recognize and identify what we're feeling, the goal is to overcome the decline in optimism in the simplest way above.