5 Communication Levels Needed In Marriage

Illustration of the level of communication needed in marriage (Freepic)

YOGYAKARTA Both in old marriages and new partners, communication is very important in this relationship. Because, with open, effective, and assertive communication so that every couple can express their needs and can respect each other. Not to mention, communication is the key to mutual trust, the foundation of lasting marriage.

For couples who have been married for a long time, sometimes communication can be very simple. View each other, or with certain body gestures, the partner already knows what it means. However, it should be understood, in marriage there are five levels of communication that must be implemented, including the following.

A phrase that doesn't really mean but works to smooth the conversation, like 'How are you?' or 'Is your day fun?' We often use it every day. At first it just seemed like a conversation, but this general phrase can open up more personal and intense talks.

This is the next level of communication. Most commonly communicated when starting the day, for example, 'Can you ask for help to buy more milk on the way home later?'. This communication reveals a request based on facts. Can you also request help to repair vehicles, or equipment at home.

Communication at this level, fast and simple. Not much inclusion of any aspect of feelings or emotions. But it is revealed in order to clarify the roles and priorities of everyone who couples.

Communication at this level is at a more complicated level, because it involves opinion, involves feelings, based on facts, as well as opening up discussions to find solutions. Of course, open discussions and respecting the opinions of everyone involved, namely you and your partner. This is the best way for deeper talks. Revealed by listening to each other with full attention and concern. Launching Marriage, Thursday, January 23, it is better if this third level of communication should be done carefully. Avoid criticizing or reviewing your partner.

The next level, seems to abstract experiences and facts. Because it involves feelings and emotions that imply your partner has reached certain emotional relationships. This fourth level of communication allows you and your partner to be open and share vulnerabilities with each other.

It should be understood, the level of communication by sharing these feelings and emotions, most needs great efforts. Because after achieving it, a safe, secure, solid, and respectful relationship will be built.

Couples who voice and listen to each other's needs carefully allow them to communicate actively and understand each other. This is a very satisfying level to communicate. Because this proves there is comfort and intimacy in marriage. Communication at this level also helps ease tensions and find solutions to the conflict that occurs.

The level of communication in the marriage above needs to be done continuously. Not only expressing simple daily things. But also about expectations and progress in a healthy marriage relationship as well as the welfare of everyone who is committed.