To Reduce Quarrels In Coupled Relationships, Strive To Do These 6 Ways

Illustration of how to reduce quarrels in a couple relationship (Freepic / creativeart)

YOGYAKARTA In a couple relationship, quarrels are triggered by different arguments, of course, normal. But every couple need to work together to try to minimize quarrels. On the one hand, healthy quarrels are constructive or build everyone who is paired up for the better. But on the other hand, couples need to reduce quarrels by doing the following important things.

A reactive and defensive attitude can be driven by stress or pressure. In order not to be triggered by reactive actions that can later be regretted, take a break especially during an argument with your partner. By taking a break, we can calm down and think longer. It also calms the nerves so that it can be clearer in having words so as not to hurt your partner. Research from 2024 reported by YourTango, Monday, November 25, found that resting for five seconds before the situation heats up could reduce the possibility of a great fight.

When you have different opinions, tell your partner to pause for a while before it heats up. Then take some time yourself, calm down, and contact your partner when you're ready with your cool head.

Ego yang sama-sama tinggi, sama-sama menarik tali sehingga semakin kencang. Supaya tahak hubungan pasangan tidak terus dan mengecewakan, coba untuk menurunkan sedikit ego. Berhaha berpikir berbuka terbuka dan tidak dura-buru mengambil Conclusion penting dilakukan. Tentu saja ini perlu dilatih, sehingga dapat mengubah dynamics pertangan yang semuanya tegang menjadi lebih konstructif.

When the fight started, many couples brought up past problems so that it made things worse. So it's important to keep your foot on the trigger of the fight. One fight, maybe helps find solutions to the problem. But don't mix the problem with each other.

In a couple relationship, it is necessary to develop strategies, adjust behavior, and control emotions. So trying to be responsible for what has happened, or the problems that must be resolved, is the wisest strategy.

In a couple relationship, how to communicate must be considered properly. In addition to being honest about expressing your mind, it is also important. But it is necessary to use a statement that starts with a I feel' perspective rather than you/you feel. Show and express the feeling of having to use a clear and straightforward language. Communication must also be authentic and honest. According to research from The Gottman Institute, being authentic in a relationship can result in lasting love because it creates intimacy and emotional connections.

Conflict often arises because emotionally disconnected from your partner or yourself. Although not always connected 24 hours for 365 days, it remains important to be emotionally connected. Because otherwise, quarrels can not be based on compassion. It is important to know, emotional intimacy does not require approval. According to research from 2022, emotional intimacy is associated with a longer and healthier life. So, in a couple relationship it is very important to maintain emotional intimacy to minimize quarrels that damage harmonious relationships.

Conflict in a couple relationship, sometimes unavoidable. Because two people who are committed to having different views and ways of thinking, it is important not to keep hatred and anger. Your partner may one time make mistakes, as well as you. So there is no need to record each other's mistakes. On the other hand, small mistakes need not be enlarged. Enough mutual understanding, respect, and express what each needs.

Conflict is not always devastating. In fact, due to conflict, many couples' relationships are getting more solid and supportive. So, to reduce quarrels in a couple relationship, both parties must strive.